We all want our kids to have the right information about sex — God knows where else they could be getting their information — but admittedly it can be hard to have honest conversations about intimacy. That's why a mom and her sons came up with the “First Time Sex Starter Kit,” a series of videos meant to educate teens that covers more than just birth control.
The kit was created by Chloe Macintosh and her sons Felix, 16, and Elliott, 14.
The mom is the cofounder of the furnishing company Made and recently launched her kit on the Kama app, according to the Huffington Post. The kit is meant to demystify “doing it” for the first time, without getting too sex ed-y. Mst of the language in the 20-part video series is meant to sound like how teens actually talk — and nothing is meant to be too clinical or inaccessible.
The videos star Macintosh’s son Felix and sex coach Aaron Michael as the two sit down and discuss anything and everything.
Topics range from “dry humping” to “how to use your penis inside.” The app also has sections on foreplay, self pleasure, and overcoming sexual anxiety. And there is also a “guide to fingering” and an “intro to anal play,” proving that no topic is overlooked.
Macintosh told Huffington Post that she was inspired to create the app after hearing Felix talk about sex with his 19-year-old cousin Jules.
She quickly realized that most teens were not getting enough good information.
“I started to record and a lot of the content came from this conversation,“ Macintosh recalled, before adding that the app is meant to fill in the gaps from sex education, which is often “heteronormative, binary, and generally backwards and incomplete.”
“We never learn how to relate, to create intimacy, to listen, to touch,” she explained.
“So the content we wanted to put out there is more than some tips to put a condom on, but more relating to the experience and making [it] as relaxed and comfortable as possible,” she added.
Felix was also part of the planning process. Many of his friends told the mom what questions they had about sex, including how to initiate sex with a partner, how to choose the right partner, what position to start with, how to give and get feedback, and what to do if things go wrong.
In one video, Felix can be heard asking Michael how to get into the act.
“Would you help her with [taking] her clothes off? Or would you just take off your own and leave her do it?" he asked in a trailer from the clip, obtained by the Daily Mail.
“If she says she's experiencing a bit of pain and you can feel there is a bit of resistance in the body, what should you do?” he asked in a second clip.
“Where are the secret spots we aren't told about?” he asked.
Although that kind of frank conversation might be hard to imagine, Macintosh believes it’s important to be honest with your kids.
After all, they are curious, and it's better that they get information that's reliable instead of learning in the schoolyard.
“Sex was never spoken about when I grew up, it was not really present, and so I found it really interesting to be more open and curious,” she told HuffPost.
In her house “there were sex books everywhere, toys, gadgets, we also had to film the app content at my home,” she explained. “So after an initial period of resistance, Felix and Elliott started to become more used to the topic and speaking about it became more and more normal.”
The mom said she hopes the app will be a positive way for teens to get the information they need without embarrassment.
“The fact that so many teens and young people go through the processes of dating and intimacy without proper guidance is not good enough and can be easily repaired. If we remove the taboo and shame from talking about sex, then authentic pleasure can come more naturally," she explained.
“The better our relationships the healthier we are in all aspects of our lives. So it’s worth focusing on.”
