Many married people will tell you that having a spouse is a lot of work. Marriage is a lifetime of compromise and complementing one another’s strengths and weaknesses to keep the relationship healthy and strong. Giving yourself to one person for the rest of your life can be daunting at first, but as you grow old together, you’ll often find that your partner completes you. But what if they don’t? What if you adore everything about them but something remains missing?
Rachael Meir and her husband, Aaron, met in college and fell in love. The pair married in 2006, and as she described in an essay shared with Metro, the couple didn’t want children. What they did find intriguing was experimenting with other partners. They tried swinging, but that didn’t feel right for them. Both Rachael and Aaron desired a deeper connection with another person, she wrote. What they were looking for was a triad relationship.
In 2019, the couple created a dating profile on Bumble. Rachael explained their hope for another woman to enter their relationship. Aaron is heterosexual and Rachael is bisexual, so this felt like a perfect fit.
“Kasey was the first woman we met in-person over drinks at an outdoor bar. My stomach was in knots so I initially hid behind my sunglasses and let Aaron do the talking, loving listening to them bonding over football – something I can’t provide,” she explained.
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The throuple dated for several months and then moved in together. Rachael admitted all three of their families struggled with their relationship at first, but in time, they all accepted them as husband and wives. Although they cannot legally marry, Aaron, Rachael, and Kasey held a commitment ceremony in Mexico in 2023, surrounded by loved ones.
“Kasey and I wore wedding dresses and walked down the aisle with Kasey’s dad, as my father is no longer with us. Aaron was escorted by all three mums. It felt special to have the backing of our families,” Rachael wrote. “The easiest way to describe our situation is that we have four relationships: There’s the relationship between me and Aaron; my relationship with Kasey; the relationship between Aaron and Kasey; and finally our relationship as a throuple.”
Today, Rachael works as a couples counselor and therapist, helping others thrive in ethical, nonmonogamous relationships.
“I offer my clients guidance to ensure they are doing it for the right reasons. Couples should not be trying to fix a problem or fill a void in their marriage, and all parties should enthusiastically consent,” Rachael explained. “Big emotions are natural but I am able to assure them that they can be worked through.”
And in case you’re wondering, Rachael, Aaron, and Kasey all work from home and sleep together in a king-size bed. If it works for them, more power to them.
