Being a mom is hard. There’s no doubt about it. And that’s not counting the outside stressors that may make parenting even harder. Having a job where you deal with kids, such as being a teacher, can deeply affect your parenting. One man on Reddit is beginning to realize that. His wife is a teacher, and her work life is bleeding into their home life, but she believes it’s the gender of her child that’s the problem. Evidently, the wife wants another baby just so she might get to have the gender of child she wants. But her husband isn’t sure a second child would really solve their problems, and people overwhelmingly agree.
The woman has been dealing with work-related stress.
In the post, which was written by her husband, he explains that his wife is a teacher and her job is “stressful.”
“Every day she talks about how much she dislikes her students and their parents. In many ways, this has bled into our home life,” he explained. “She often will get frustrated with our son and say ‘you’re acting like so and so’ or ‘so and so in my class does the same thing.’ This is confusing for him, because he doesn’t know who those people are.”
The wife wants another baby to seemingly fix her problems, but her husband is skeptical.
According to the husband, with their son getting ready to start kindergarten in the fall, his wife wants a second child. He claims his wife says she’s “sick of being a ‘boy mom’ and wants a daughter,” but he doesn’t think they’re ready to have another child.
One of the main reasons for his believe is because they do not have regular, reliable child care. Both of their families have said they’d help, “but her parents are flaky, and my parents are judgemental.” Money is also a major reason to wait.
His wife is being unreasonable, and he doesn’t know what to do.
He explained that his wife really wants another baby to have a daughter. He’s “scared of how she will react if that doesn’t happen.”
“My wife said I’m being selfish because I got a boy and now think we’re done. She said if we had a girl I would want to try again,” he wrote in his post. “That’s not true. I don’t care. I just think now is a bad time for a second child, period. Work is stressful, and home is stressful too.”
People are absolutely reading her for filth in the comments.
“Your wife is being irrational and could benefit from therapy to get to the bottom of what is really going on. Having another baby isn’t going to solve whatever real problem she has,” one person wrote.
Another added, “Any woman confident she is getting a daughter in a lottery like childbirth is delusional. She needs to speak with professional help.”
“Your wife should not have anymore children. She’s abusing the one she has and it’s appalling,” someone else commented.
“This is weird behavior maybe she needs to see a specialist. I’d honestly be second guessing my relationship with her after this,” another person chimed in. “I can’t imagine saying that im tired of being a mom to my child, and I was a single mom struggling for 12 years to support my son. I don’t get it.”
Someone else was fairly harsh but probably has a point.
“Your wife sounds like a terrible person. She has chosen a poorly paying career but hates it and the students and parents,” the commenter’s post began. “And her solution to being broke and hating her life is to have another child, which on a coin flip could be a daughter that she claims will make everything different. This is insanity. Children are hellishly expensive and stressful. There is no number of kids that magically fixes all the other issues in life.”
