To err is human, as the saying goes, and we’ve all done and said things in our lives that we’re not proud of. More often than not, we as ladies are taught to present ourselves in the most angelic light possible, sans any skeletons in the closet. But the truth is, we’re just as capable of being as ruthless as men, if not more so at times. We just tend to do a better job at hiding it.
If you’re a woman who’s carrying on to guilt, shame, or regret from your past actions, know you’re not alone. In fact, this sort of thing is way more common than you’d think. To prove it, here are some of the things these anonymous women have done that continue to haunt them to this day, courtesy of Reddit user Minimum_Life21, who wanted to know, “What’s something you’ve done that still haunts you?”
The Cruel Grade School Remark
“When I was 7 or 8 years old, I was bickering with a girl at school, I don’t even remember what about, but I remember saying, ‘At least I have a dad’ (her parents were divorced). I’m 25 and still think about it constantly, which is a fair punishment for saying such a cruel thing.” -hnybbyy
Not Dropping Everything Before the Death of Loved Ones
“Not taking work off to be with my cat before he was euthanized (he lost control of his legs). Not coming home earlier to my dad to force him to go to the ER because he was feeling unwell (he was experiencing a bleeding stroke and died a week later). Drop everything for the ones you love. Nothing matters more than them, in the end.” -womanunkind_
“Not taking my mom seriously when she said she thought she was going to die. She was a hypochondriac and often anxious about her health. She died of a heart attack the next day.” -Cozywhisp
Being Emotionally Abusive With An Ex-Partner
“I was a really [bad] person to my ex. Like abusive, but not in a physical way. After they left, I really started to look at myself and try to become a better person. I’ve been told I’m doing better, but that doesn’t change who I was and how it affected people. At this point, I can only walk forward.” -Xallia_Yevatell
Ditching A Bachelor Party
“I was like 19 or 20, and I left a girl’s bachelorette party because I didn’t feel that close to her and just wanted to do something else. I didn’t understand at the time how big a deal it is to have women show up for you. I feel like a monster when I remember.” -True-Shape7744
Embarrassingly Oversharing
“I always pick/ed partners that were not emotionally available and thus did not like to communicate. A lot of times, this led me to [overshare] personal issues with people whom I was around often (i.e., coworkers then). I get really upset with myself when I think about all of the things I’ve shared with them that I shouldn’t have because that was between my partner and [me]. And it was truly my fault for not doing my absolute best to communicate with my partner directly because I was always fearful of arguing or breaking up. It’s something that always eats at me when I think about how stupid I was.” -RookieRedditor22
Sometimes, it just feels better to know that you’re not the only one carrying around guilt. The good thing is that these are situations we can all learn from to be better and experience growth.
You can view Minimum_Life21’s post here.
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