I was not OK. I went from being a happily married woman who was able to have kids very easily, to a divorced single mother of three teenagers. I can fully admit, I had no idea what it felt like to not be OK. Sure, I had hard days — days when it seemed like there was no end in sight and I was sucking as a mother — but, I always knew my partner was coming home. I knew he’d help me if I asked for it. I had someone to vent to. I never had to worry about if and when we were able to have children, because every time we tried, we succeeded.
However, after my life changed, I began to have more days when I was really uncomfortable
What is that about?
Why do we do that? Why do we feel like we're supposed to be OK all the time?
Life is full of the unexpected, the good, the trying, and the really hard stuff that brings us to our knees. And we're so hard on ourselves that we think we're supposed to be OK all the time no matter what we're going through.
It’s OK to not be OK
It’s OK to admit it. It’s OK to feel it and not try to fix it.That's a form of self-care, too.
The other day, as I was taking down the Christmas ornaments, I was really struggling. I was sick, my kids were sick, I was overwhelmed, I was behind, I was missing my old life, I was anxious about the future.
I wasn't OK and I just let that be my story until it passed — which it did — because life is like that: It never stays the same, and we just have to go with it, because it’s better than trying to fight off all the times we're struggling.
So do yourself a favor and stop doing that, OK?
