There’s a lot that users on social media can learn when it comes to the way other people live, and that’s one of the things that some people love the most about it. Unfortunately for someone by the name of Lys, who shared details in a TikTok of wearing her “day collar” as a trad wife, her post about the custom backfired a bit. In case you are a little out of the know, a trad wife is what many call a traditional housewife, or someone who embraces the traditional and stereotypical gender roles in a marriage, per Parents.
In the TikTok that Lys posted, she explains another component of being a trad wife, at least for her. She wears what she calls a day collar. In her case, it’s a necklace that she wears to show her dedication to her husband. She has the comments turned off on this particular TikTok video, but after she posted other videos on other topics, users left comments to share their curiosity, disgust, and support about the day collar.
@farmmamalys the trust and safety that comes with this type of dynamics is hard to put into words #tradwife #tradwifetok #submissivewife #subwife #sub #traditionalwife #creatorsearchinsights #viral #boost #fyp ♬ original sound – Lys🌻🫶🏻
The trad wife’s ‘day collar’ drew criticisms on social media.
Lys explains in her video what the day dollar means for her as a trad wife. She says that it isn’t about her relationship with her husband in the bedroom, though she does acknowledge that the ideas of both a trad wife and a day collar are “controversial.” Still, she goes into why she is a trad wife and why she wears the necklace.
“I respect my man’s lead. He provides, he protects, he puts our best interests first,” she says in her video. “I could ask that man for anything and he would go to the ends of the earth just to get it for me, and if he can’t, he’s gonna make it. My day collar is a daily sign of submission. For us, it is a deeper level of connection than a wedding ring. I’m not gonna constantly be this wrecking ball when he walks through the house. I’m going to be a safe, comforting place where he can go.”
In a follow-up video where Lys did not turn off the comments, she says that she respects her husband’s “lead” and his ability to make decisions for them. She then talks about the Bible and says that “Eve was created as a suitable helper.” For Lys, that means “uplifting” and “guiding” the man in her life, though not everyone sees it that way, especially after she explained her day collar.
“Why do we have to be small for them to feel big?” One woman commented on the video. “God didn’t create me to shrink.”
Someone else wrote, “I truly worry that all these trad wives are going to be where our grandmothers were and can’t leave if they need to.”
But others came to Lys’s defense in her ideas about what it means to her to be a wife.
“True feminism is respecting all women and their right to live their lives the way they want to!” one person commented under the video. “Stop hating on this woman because she chose a life that makes her happy!!”
Someone else pointed out others’ judgmental behavior. “Why are so many pressed that she chooses to be submissive to her husband?” the person wrote. “A lot of women out here can’t get past the situationship stage. Passing judgement is crazy.”
