Discovering that your partner has been cheating on you is always a punch to the gut, but one woman's story on Reddit takes the cake. In it, she claims that she recently discovered her husband of 21 years has been cheating on her pretty much the entire time they've been married. But that's not all — apparently, after she exposed his lies and asked for a divorce, he had the gall to ask her to babysit the kids he shares with his mistress!
The woman's tale is long but worth the read.
In her anonymous post, which was shared on Reddit a few weeks ago, the 42-year-old wife says she married her husband (who is now 46) just over two decades ago.
Three months ago, her world fell apart when she discovered that he's been brazenly unfaithful ever since they said "I do."
The part that stings the most is that his affairs have produced multiple children.
With one woman in particular, he now has a 13-year-old daughter, a 6-year-old son, and another baby on the way.
"She claims all three kids are my husband’s and he has not disputed that," the poster shared, adding that although she doesn't want to reveal how she found out, suffice it to say she was "absolutely devastated" by the news.
That said, she made up her mind pretty quickly to divorce him.
The only problem is, the logistics of the pandemic have put a slight wrinkle in her plan.
"I can’t afford to move out until April when I get my yearly bonus from my workplace," she explained. "So for now, we are still living in the same house (I am sleeping in the guest room)."
When it comes to her husband's kids, she's made it pretty clear that she doesn't want to be around them.
And she definitely doesn't want them to set foot in her house.
But recently, a strange thing happened that put her in an awkward spot.
It happened one morning after she woke up for work.
"I work from home right now because of COVID," the woman explained. "But if there is an emergency I can and will be called into work."
"Last Tuesday, I was still half asleep when my work phone went off," she continued. "I answered it and it was my boss. He needed me in the office ASAP. I jumped up and got dressed."
As she rushed to get ready and sprinted out the door, there were a few things that caught her eye.
"I remember my door being open which was weird because I sleep with it shut, but I was in such a rush I didn’t pay much attention to it," she explained. "I rushed downstairs and who do I see? My husband’s kids in the living room."
Needless to say, she was pretty ticked off about it.
"I immediately got upset, but I didn’t have time to confront him," the Redditor recalled. "So I just left."
She spent the day at work, trying not to think about the latest drama of her marriage, and left after being able to resolve the work-related crisis.
When she got home, she wasn't expecting to be ambushed.
Back at her house, her husband and his sister were waiting for her — and now they're the ones who look furious.
"They both LOST it at me," the woman explained. "My husband started screaming that the younger boy had fallen down the stairs because I left the kids alone. I had no idea what was going on."
Then, she started to think back over the morning.
"It took me a minute, but finally I worked out that my husband had woken me up early this morning to see if I’d watch the kids," she said. "Apparently, I said yes and then fell back asleep. I have NO MEMORY of this conversation."
The whole thing led to a major argument.
"I was p—ed," she admitted. "I told him that I’d told him I didn’t want the kids around me and that it was his own fault for asking me when I was half-asleep. I said I’d seen the kids that morning, but that I’d assumed he was around somewhere and I hadn’t had time to talk to him."
But apparently, that wasn't a good enough response.
"My SIL jumped in then and said that it was my fault because I didn’t check to see if there was another adult around before leaving," she added. "Some other things were said and in the end I got back in my car and left just to get away from them."
It's been days, but their squabble is still weighing heavily on her mind.
"I'm starting to feel irresponsible and like I should have double-checked to make sure someone was there," she admitted. "I don’t know if the kid was hurt when he fell because I didn’t ask, but judging from how much my husband was freaking out it’s possible the kid was."
So now, she wants to know: Was she being a jerk?
Most people were in agreement: NO WAY was she in the wrong.
"You are not responsible for the products of your husband's affair, nor is it reasonable to expect someone to remember a conversation they had when they were still mostly asleep," one person told her. "Also, WHO THE F— ASKS THEIR WIFE to WATCH THEIR MISTRESSES KIDS?!"
If anyone was wrong, most people thought it was her husband.
"Why on earth would that a-hole think it was appropriate to ask you to watch his affair kids?" one person asked. "The SIL is an enabler who would be even more upset than you if she was in your position. It's very easy to bash someone for something that you would never be okay with, yet still want to act as if the person is wrong to reject the whole idea."
The poster "also made it clear that she did not want those children in her house PERIOD," someone else chimed in. "He has some nerve bringing them into the house, her position was clear. He should have left them with his busybody sister. No way is OP responsible for them for a single minute … "
"Your husband doesn't seem to understand what he's done to you," another person told her. "You are the absolute last person on the planet that he should ask to babysit his children. And his sister should mind her business and steer clear of you."
Some people made some other good points too.
"At 13, the older one can babysit, or at least keep an eye out to make sure that the younger sibling doesn't fall down the stairs," one person noted.
"This could have still happened if she had been home and asleep and still unaware there were children in the house," another person added. "He’s an idiot. And … since when is 13 incapable of babysitting their younger sibling instead of the woman their father cheated on to father them?"
In the end, Reddit was pretty much unanimous: This woman had nothing to worry about. (Well, other than the fact that divorcing her jerk of a husband DEFINITELY needs to be a priority.)
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