A woman on Reddit posted in the family community to ask an important question: Are dads supposed to help get their daughters ready?
"Is getting your child dressed a female thing to do? Is changing your child’s diaper a female thing to do? Is giving your child a bath a female thing to do? Is doing your child’s hair a female thing to do? Is making your child’s breakfast a female thing to do?" she wrote.
For context, she and her partner are both age 25 and parents to a 1-year-old daughter. She works from home, and normally does the bulk of the childcare, even when she's working.
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People had a lot of feelings
The comments are full of support for this woman, explaining to her that men are just as responsible for their children as women.
"A real man and a real father will change dirty nappies (diapers), feed a bottle/solids, wash and clothe little one as well as attend as many appointments, baby groups, activities and school plays etc. as they possibly can," one commenter said.
"I don’t believe that man or woman matters when it comes to getting children dressed in the morning, it’s a parents job to do so. It’s the parents job to care for the child regardless of anyone’s gender," someone else added.
"I'd ask him if he's proud of being a useless parent. Can he even call himself a father if he's that useless?"
Here's what's she had to say in an update to the post
She added an edit to her original post presumably after reading what everyone had to say about the situation. After talking, he began to realize the error of his ways and did offer to step up and be a present dad and partner. But it seems that the woman may not be fully convinced of his ability to change.
"I realize that I am in a relationship with a manipulator. We have been together since we were 18 but it wasn’t until after we had our daughter that I realized he is a manipulator," she wrote.
"I hope that he will change. But at this moment it looks like he’s always gonna be this way. I’m going to eventually leave him and just co-parent after I gain more respect for myself. Thank you everyone!" she ended the post.
