There’s nothing easy about motherhood. Pregnancy changes our bodies and our minds, and that’s before we even have the baby. After delivery, it’s unlikely we’ll look the same way we did pre-pregnancy. And that’s perfectly OK. Sometimes, we even find ourselves with welcomed changes that we didn’t expect. Jodie Weston, a DJ and influencer in the United Kingdom, says pregnancy increased her bust size tremendously. Much to her surprise, her postpartum body causes all kinds of trouble, even among other moms. Why can’t we all just get along?
Weston felt beautiful in her postpartum body after having her son, Koa-Zayd, but started to feel shamed by other moms. According to The Express, she now doubts herself.
“All people seem to notice now is my boob size. I feel comfortable with my body, but I’ve felt the need to speak with doctors about getting them reduced. At first, I loved my pregnancy boobs, but now, they’re a hindrance,” Weston admitted. “It’s causing too much hassle for me in all aspects of life.”
Things got so bad at Koa-Zayd’s playgroup that Weston said they banned her. She believes it’s because of the way her breasts look in a bathing suit. Some people tell her she looks immodest because of her large breasts and want her to cover up more.
“I had one mum tell me to go to Sports Direct and get a proper costume. So many of them eyeball me, looking me up and down with disgust,” Weston said, per The Express.
Women make fun of her body, and her breasts become the hot topic of conversation. As much as Weston wants to brush it off, the mean girl behavior hurts her feelings.
Like many moms, Weston jumps at the chance to doll herself up if she can. She thinks other women assume she’s trying to impress their husbands, but that’s not the case.
“I get to make myself look like the best version of me — and it’s not for anyone else’s approval — but for my own self-confidence only,” Weston shared.
But this mom will stand on business. She’s sorry about the way things went down in Koa-Zayd’s play group, but she doesn’t want to change who she is to make other women more comfortable.
“What am I meant to do? Have a load of separate clothes that don’t upset them? I can’t help the way my body looks — and it’s not my fault I look better than them,” she said.
“I feel awful about being banned, but I am really passionate about maintaining my identity, especially after becoming a mum,” Weston added.
Good for her. If more moms allowed themselves to feel confident in their own bodies, perhaps they wouldn’t care so much about other people’s assets.
