What to Know
We’ve all seen those videos of women complaining about their husbands on social media, yet refusing to actually do anything about the relationship. And, according to a woman on TikTok, Jane Fox, it’s because there is a legitimate “cultural difference” between you and these wives who would rather complain about their husbands than leave them or take steps to make their husbands see the error of their ways.
Some of these videos might include a wife who posts a secret video of her husband lecturing her or talking down to her. Later after an onslaught of attention and advice rolls in, she will make another video to assure people that her husband is actually a good guy and that they “don’t know him.” It’s a tale as old as time, or really, as old as viral videos. But apparently, there’s a reason why some women don’t understand how these wives stick it out with these utterly terrible husbands.
Some women don’t understand the women who complain about their husbands on social media.
@nthegate The bad husband posts where the woman doesn’t want to hear it is a cultural thing. She really did not expect to be told it was bad behavior and that she should leave. For most of these women that’s probably the first time they are ever hearing something like that.
♬ original sound – Jane Fox
If you’ve ever commented on a video where a wife complains about a pretty serious issue or habit her husband has and you urged the woman to leave him, apparently, you are the wrong type of audience she is looking for. According to Jane, this type of wife is looking for other wives who can laugh with her, agree that their husbands are annoying too, and accept the behavior.
“When you see the videos of the women with the really s–tty partners, and they post the videos, and then they get mad at the comments, right, and they defend the man, and they’re like, ‘you don’t even know my relationship. You don’t even know him. Why are you saying all these things?’ What you don’t understand about them is there’s a cultural difference between that woman and you,” Jane says in her video.
She adds that the women in these videos come “from a culture” where the norm is complaining about a husband’s behavior without actually wanting to correct it or work on it with him.
“They don’t hear ‘you should leave, this is really s–tty behavior. He shouldn’t do that. You should leave.’ They don’t hear that,” she explains. “They weren’t expecting you to say that. They really weren’t. They were expecting you to say, ‘ha, ha, mine’s annoying too, girl. Like, I get it.'”
Other women commented on jane’s video to agree with her assessment of the “cultural difference” that these types of wives share. One joked in the comments, “They wanted…validation, not solutions.”
Someone else pointed out, “Also, just vent to a close friend or a journal. Not everything is for the whole internet.” And that comment justifies the one about some of these women wanting validation with their thoughts about their husbands rather than actual ways to be happy and, you know, not deal with awful spouses.
