We have no problem with someone wanting to have a “kids-free" wedding — every couple deserves to have the big day of their dreams. But maybe, just maybe, one couple was taking the whole adults-only thing a little too far when they refused to let their 14-year-old daughter attend. Is she wrong for being upset?
According to the teen, her parents had her when they were teenagers.
Now they’re in their 30’s and somehow they’ve managed to make things work throughout their relationship.
“There were a lot of sacrifices on their behalf, but we have a rather comfortable life nowadays and they are both good parents,” the Original Poster (OP) explained in her post on Reddit.
Her parents have been saving and finally, FINALLY, they are going to have their dream wedding.
Her mom in particular has been saving and planning and dreaming and would even go to the OP looking for suggestions and advice.
“I'd say I helped plan the wedding with how much we've talked about it and the amount of suggestions I made she incorporated,” the teen girl explained.
Recently, her parents dropped the bomb — they didn’t want any kids to come.
And by kids, they meant anyone younger than 21, including their daughter.
“I felt hurt at first, but they said they wanted to party like the wedding they had wanted to have before they turned 18, and I thought it was fair.”
Her understanding about the event lasted until they told the OP that they wanted her to babysit.
They asked her to watch her four cousins — all younger than 10 — so her aunts could come “and I wouldn't be alone.” But the OP was ticked. She basically planned her own parents wedding and they want her to be … the babysitter?
She was told that if she doesn’t babysit she would be “ungrateful.”
Her dad tried to reason with her that it would only be one day and “it's the least I could do to them after all they sacrificed for me in their youth.”
“Am I the a–hole here?” she wondered.
Simply put: no.
"This is manipulative bulls—t," one commenter wrote. "You do not owe your parents anything for doing the bare legal minimum of taking care of you. They chose to have a kid, and having a kid means sacrificing some of the things child free people get to enjoy. Their choice should not lead to your obligation."
"OP is their daughter and she should be the exception," someone else agreed. "They are excluding her so she has to babysit. Truly selfish parents. They could have made it no kids under 13. OP I would make plans that day. You aren't obligated to babysit. Your Aunts can hire a someone to babysit in their home. Oh and yeah you owe your parents not a d–n thing. They chose to have you."
Someone else put it like this:
"I would be so extremely hurt that my own parents didn't want me at their wedding. OP, none of this is your fault. Your parents are completely TA for making you feel that you ruined their lives and that they sacrificed their lives for you."
The person continued, "OP, you can tell your parents — okay, you don't want me at your wedding fine. But don't expect me to baby sit the other kids. Let me hang out with my friends. I hope that all of the adults will question the parents why their OWN KID is not at the d–n wedding."
The heartbreaking thing is that it's clear the OP really wants to be there to watch her parents get married and they're focused on partying like they were teenagers. Her parents might be in the right to not want other kids at their ceremony, but to exclude their daughter and to ask her to babysit instead of watching them complete their family would be a hard pill for anyone to swallow.
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