One of the interesting things about the Kardashian family is that they'll talk a good game about their family being the most important thing in their lives. Five minutes later? Some combination of them are at each other's throats or making catty remarks again. Although all sisters probably fight, the Kardashians often take it to the next level, calling each other terrible names and even getting into physical altercations with each other. Let's be real: Adult siblings throwing hands and pushing each other into walls isn't normal behavior! Given that, it isn't surprising that Kourtney has been open about going to therapy to help her deal with her family.
For fans of the family's reality shows, there are plenty of examples of Kourtney using those therapy skills to attempt to set some boundaries with her family, including her ex-partner Scott Disick and mom/manager Kris. From protecting her time and energy to setting limits on who gets to have access to her kids, Kourtney has shown that she's not afraid to make her family mad when it comes to setting boundaries. We do love some healthy boundaries when it comes messy family dynamics, so call us #TeamKourtney when it comes to Kardashian family conflict.
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Stop the Family Gossip
A perfect example of why Kourtney wants to set boundaries came after she discovered Kim sent an email to friends and family gossiping about Kourtney and whether she was going to have another baby. Although Kourtney was upset about Kim's behavior, Kim and Khloé not only keep gossiping about her, this time to mutual friend Simon, but also act like Kourtney is crazy for being upset. No wonder she wants to keep some emotional distance from them!
Baby Drama
One thing that nobody should have to face from their family is pressure to have another baby, especially with an ex. When Kris tries to mediate the aftermath of Kourtney and Kim's fight about this, Kourtney holds firm and says that she will "not accept" someone who is malicious and goes behind her back. Seems reasonable to us.
Team Scott Annoyance
In the past, Kourtney faced a lot of pressure from her family about her relationship with Scott Disick. When Kris was once again trying to steer Kourtney back to him, she was clearly not interested in the conversation and had the eye rolls to prove it.
The Nanny Showdown
Kourtney and Kim come into conflict when Kourtney refuses to let Kim’s nanny be around her kids. According to Kourtney, there was an incident on vacation when Kim's nanny allegedly called Kourtney’s then 5-year-old son a liar. We don't know what really happened, but it is clear Kourtney's mama bear boundaries were activated.
Triggered by Tristan
The Kardashian sisters don't have the best track records when it comes to picking partners, and they seem to tend to try to forgive a lot when it comes to things like cheating. Kourtney seems to be the one most comfortable calling out her discomfort with the fact that serial cheater Tristan Thompson is still hanging around the family. She also wants to make sure her daughter feels safe and comfortable before having her spend time with him, which is a good mama boundary.
Kourtney Takes on Generational Trauma
On the recent season finale of The Kardashians Kourtney got real about her therapy journey and why she thinks she and her sisters choose bad partners, including men that they "think they can change." Watching Kris deflect Kourtney's efforts to talk about the benefits of therapy makes it really clear why Kourtney is all about the setting boundaries now.
Over the Fake Relationships
Kourtney sets a boundary that she’s not going to spend time with people who are disrespectful to her, even if they are her sisters. "I'm not going to be around people who bring me down on a regular basis," she explains. Family is important, but so is protecting one's own peace. We get it, Kourtney.
Energetically Drained
Part of setting boundaries is to be really clear about what someone needs. Kourtney has been clear that filming for the family's show is never going to be her top priority because it makes her feel "energetically drained" and caused problems in her past relationships.
Kourtney Wants More Privacy
Kourtney opens this scene by explicitly talking about her boundaries, especially around her time as a mom. She notes that she wants to prioritize her own privacy and that she feels like she gives enough time to the show and isn't willing to give more.
Stop Siding With Scott
Kourtney first set boundaries with Scott around his lack of consistency and accountability, which is totally fair for someone who has to stay in her life as the father of her children. In this moment from the show, she then asked her sisters to stop siding with her ex-boyfriend during any conflicts, which is also fair.
House Boundaries
Scott and Kourtney used to share a home together and still spend a lot of time together, but Kourtney needed to be clear with Scott that one of her boundaries is she doesn't want him to feel like he can just come into the house whenever he wants to and with no notice. That's also totally fair in our book.
No Fake Apologies
One of the other ways Kourtney sets boundaries is by refusing to accept Kim's totally insincere apologies after one of their blowout fights. Here's a tip, Kim: People can tell you aren't actually sorry if you are still laughing at them when you apologize! Kudos to Kourtney for making it clear that she feels disrespected when that happens.
Boundaries on Both Sides
Kourtney isn't the only one who tries to set some boundaries or to clearly communicate her wants and needs. Sometimes Khloé can get there too, although she weirdly tried to have her friends act like therapists to try to mediate a conversation with Kourtney. Maybe stick to real therapists for handling the heavy stuff?
Kourtney Wants To Set the Rules When It Comes to Scott
One of the ongoing tensions between Kourtney and her family is about their relationship with Scott. Even though Kris and the other sisters still love him and want to include him in family events, Kourtney has pushed back on that, arguing that she should get to decide what the rules are for how and when her ex gets invited to family functions.
Kourtney Wants Time for Things That Matter to Her
Our therapy-loving queen got her sisters to sit down together with a therapist and became super clear about her boundaries: She wants time and support to do the things that matter to her (like travel) and the show will never be her top priority. Sadly, Kim still seems to think that Kourtney needs to "be accountable" for being on the show more.
