Sometimes, even the most notorious playboys want to settle down. Musician and infamous womanizer John Mayer is apparently ready to get married – as surprising as that statement might sound to some of his fans. John has a reputation as a serial dater, having engaged in relationships with stars including Cameron Diaz, Katy Perry, and Taylor Swift. But if you ask John, his days of being a player are behind him, and he’s ready to settle down. During a recent podcast appearance, the singer got honest about his desire to live in domestic bliss and the aspect of relationships that he describes as his "kink."
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Marriage is something that John 'absolutely' wants in life.
Talking to Kelly Rizzo for her new podcast, Comfort Food, John said, "People don't think I want to be married. I absolutely want to be married.
"You know the secret, which is that I'm actually fairly well-adjusted. And I so badly want to get married if only for my wife to just know in her heart, like, 'John will know what to do,'" he added. "I just think that level of being relied on is the hottest thing in the world to me. 'If my husband was here, he would know what to do. Call John. Call my husband.' You're a full grown-up when this is your romantic fantasy. You're a fully fledged grown-up."
The conversation taught John something about himself.
Kelly jokingly told John, "Your kink is that you want someone to be like, 'John's got a guy.'"
Something about Kelly’s comment struck John in a way he had never considered. "Reliance kink? Oh my god," he said. "Reliability kink? YES."
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John has never shied away from talking about marriage being in his future.
Over the years, John has been open about his desire to find someone to settle down with. In a 2021 interview with friend Andy Cohen, John shared that getting married was on his bucket list.
"That would be — that would complete all of it," he said. "And I thought about this as recently as last night. 'Cause my brothers are both married and have children … My dad was 50 when he had me. I think if I work backwards, it's 50. Forty-eight, 50."
He jokingly claimed that he needs a 'referee.'
More recently, John addressed his desire to settle down on his SiriusXM radio show "Life With John Mayer". "I need someone to tell me to stop these things at some point. I've heard people tell me that I shouldn't get married — I go, 'I need a referee, I need someone to step in and just say, 'You can't do that,'" he said.
His therapist told him something that may resonate with many people.
"I asked him, 'Am I going to find somebody in my life? Am I going to end up finding somebody?' And he said to me, 'John, it's inevitable.' I loved that word — 'inevitable.' Because it means I have nothing to do with whether I do or not. And I believe in it … The stakes just get really high when you get older," he said.
What a nice way to think about it!
