Kylie Kelce’s Best Mom Advice: ‘Do Not Get Your Heart Set on Anything’

Kylie Kelce is getting honest about the expectations that come along with being a mom. On the January 23 episode of her Not Gonna Lie podcast, Kylie shared the “biggest piece of mom advice” she can offer: “Do not get your heart set on anything.” Kylie is expecting her fourth child with husband Jason Kelce.

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Regardless of what you think is going to happen, ‘baby is going to do what the f— baby wants to do.’

When it comes to pregnancy and motherhood, many moms and moms-to-be might have certain expectations and preferences. Kylie, 32, however, said that much of what happens during pregnancy and motherhood is beyond moms’ control.

“From pregnancy all the way through into motherhood, don’t think that you’re going to have no nausea,” Kylie advised. “Don’t think that you are going to be unscathed by the sciatic nerve pain. Don’t think that you are going to only gain 20 pounds. Don’t think that you are going to breastfeed.

“Don’t think that you are going to have a natural birth,” she continued. “Do not get your heart set on anything because baby is going to do what the f— baby wants to do.”

Things will be OK anyway, even if they don’t go quite how you planned.

Having these kinds of expectations isn’t worth the stress, Kylie added. “Why stress out about something that at the end of the day is going to be okay, but might not have been your first choice?” she said on the podcast.

Kylie is already mom to three daughters: Wyatt, 5, Elliotte, 3, and Bennett, 23 months.

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She and Amanda Hirsch also discussed maintaining your own identity after becoming a mom.

In the same episode, Kylie talked to pop culture expert Amanda Hirsch of Not Skinny But Not Fat about being more than just “mom.” Amanda admitted that when she found out she was pregnant with her first child, she worried about how motherhood might affect her career and sense of self.

She reminded herself, however, that she could still enjoy the things she enjoyed prior to motherhood. “I said to myself, ‘You’re going to keep doing what you’re doing. You’re just gonna be a mom but you’re going to keep doing the dumb s— that you do,'” Amanda explained.

Motherhood is ‘the most selfless thing,’ Kylie said.

Being a mom is “selfless” and “to some degree, all-encompassing,” Kylie admitted. “At any point in the day, you do have to always be concerned about the tiny humans you’re responsible for,” she said on the podcast. At the same time, though, she thinks “there is a misconception that (motherhood) wipes out the rest of you and makes you solely mom.”

Being a mom doesn’t mean ‘we are only Mom.’

“What we need to do is tack (motherhood) on to the end of the resumé and keep the rest of the s— that also defines us as who we are as people,” Kylie explained. “Because we’re still us. Just because we made a human being or we are a mother to a tiny human doesn’t mean that we are only mom.”