Sex Confession: I Cheated & I Told My Husband

“Sex Confessions” is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, and all will turn you on (well most). You might want to sit down for this.

Today's sex confession comes from a 32-year-old mother of one who has been married to her high school sweetheart for 10 years. But two years ago, she messed up. While she admits that it all started with a little flirting with a guy at a bar after having one too many drinks while out with her girl friends one night, she has taken it too far. As far as it could go. She's been cheating on her husband for a year with the one man. The man knows she's married. Her husband, however, didn't know about the other guy. Until a month ago. Here is what she revealed ….

I'm not proud of myself. It all started because I drank too much, which I rarely ever do. But I saw this guy, felt something, and went up and started talking to him. We kissed at the bar. It was sloppy, stupid, careless, and totally wrong. I promised myself I would never do that again. I'd never cheat on John* again. I love him. I love our life. I love our marriage. I would never want to jeopardize what we have especially because of our daughter. But I did. I saw the guy again. And again. And it's been a year. My relationship with James* isn't anything like my marriage. It is mostly sexual. John and I don't have sex very often. James fulfills that missing part. James knows all about my marriage and I finally came clean and told my husband.

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At first it seemed he was unwilling to forgive me. But he has. It's been a month since I told him and we've been working through it together. I didn't have to tell him. He had no idea what I had been doing. I wish I could erase the past year. But I can't. And that's the problem. I don't know how to break it off with James. I haven't seen him in a month. I keep putting him off. I haven't told him that my husband knows. I wish I just could never return his calls and never speak to him again. Though I know it's not that easy. I will run into him somewhere. And to be honest, I'm scared to talk to him because I don't completely trust myself to end it.

I need advice.

What advice would you give to this confessor?

*Names have been changed.

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