Weddings have a habit of bringing out the worst in people. Couples planning a wedding have a lot to worry about: the venue, guest list, and of course, their family. A bride took to Reddit to share just how horrible her family was during her wedding, mainly about the menu.
The bride and groom, who are vegans, planned a fully vegan meal, and many people weren’t happy about it. And they definitely took their dissatisfaction too far, with the bride’s brother doing something truly rude.
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The bride was creating the wedding she wanted, as she should.
Posting in Reddit’s AITA, the bride explained that she and the groom have been vegan for three years. As a result, they decided they wanted their wedding reception dinner to be “all-vegan.”
“We spent months working with an amazing chef to create a gourmet 5-course meal that just happened to be vegan – think mushroom wellington, truffle risotto, roasted vegetable tarts, etc. We spent nearly $15,000 on the food alone.”
There was one major thing ...
“We deliberately didn’t mention the food was vegan on the invitations because we wanted people to enjoy it without prejudice. Every dish was designed to be delicious and satisfying, regardless of dietary preference,” the bride admitted.
She called the ceremony “beautiful,” but things went south during the reception. Out of nowhere, her brother Tom and some cousins “walked in carrying 20 large pizzas. They started distributing them to guests, announcing ‘Real food for anyone who wants it!'”
“I was mortified. The caterers looked so embarrassed, and several guests hadn’t even tried our carefully planned menu yet,” the bride wrote.
Many of their family members weren't interested in the food they'd chosen.
When she confronted her brother about the pizzas, he placed the blame on her aunt, saying the woman “texted him that ‘all the food is just vegetables’ and they ‘couldn’t let people go hungry at a wedding.'” It was clear that guests preferred the pizza, with the bride saying the move “upstaged our expensive gourmet meal.”
“My mother-in-law posted on Facebook about how her son’s wedding was ‘saved by pizza’ because the bride tried to ‘force everyone to eat rabbit food,'” she shared.
The groom asked Tom and the cousins to leave the wedding, but it only seemed to do more harm than good. “Half the family is calling us stuck-up and saying we ruined our own wedding by ‘pushing our beliefs’ on everyone,” she said, adding that the family believes the couple should have given them a head’s up about the all-vegan menu.
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Many commenters saw both sides.
A large portion of commenters believed that there wasn’t one clear villain in this situation. They believe the bride should have been more forthcoming, but that the family’s behavior was also unwarranted.
“Honestly, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to serve a vegan meal at your wedding, but you didn’t disclose that because you KNEW folks were going to have responses to it,” someone wrote. “A heads up would have been the right move here. The bringing pizzas was also an AH move, but no one was right.”
“I don’t mind some vegan food but I freaking hate mushrooms so I would have been starving,” another commented. “On the other hand ordering pizza was utterly classless.”
“You deliberately kept it a secret to avoid the drama and force them to try your food but unfortunately your family took petty to another level… next time be honest about the menu and tell them not to come if they aren’t interested,” someone suggested.
A lot of commenters were divided.
While many people saw both sides, others were firmly either for or against the bride and her choices.
“You were the a–hole because you tried to trick people to eat what you wanted them to eat KNOWING there were people who would not choose to do so if given a choice,” one person wrote. “You wanted to FORCE people to bend to your will. Karma came for you. It usually does sooner or later. In your case, it was sooner.”
Another commented: “If people know anything about you they would know you are vegan. They are there to celebrate YOU as a couple and could have sucked it up for one meal.”
“I get wanting to share your lifestyle, but not telling people upfront was kind of unfair, especially when it led to the pizza drama,” someone else wrote. “You could’ve avoided all that by just giving a heads-up.”
“I’m a meat eater but why does everyone ate like they would die over a single vegan meal?” another comment reads. “Weird concept. Very rude for someone to also order pizza, that’s just trashy behaviour. Imagine showing up to a wedding that isn’t yours with food for everyone else… like, drinks yes please, but food when there’s already catered food is rude AF.”
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