We love technology and social media and how easy it is to stay connected to the ones we love. But we also understand that sometimes it's easy to hide behind our devices and avoid having difficult conversations face-to-face. Sometimes, you just need to act like an adult and speak up, not use your phone to deliver serious news.
Hannah, a wife and mom of four, thought everything was OK in her marriage until her husband walked out one morning after an argument. She explained in a TikTok video on her account, @hxnnxh__11, that he actually ended their marriage with a text that day. He blocked her on social media, leaving her heartbroken, she explained in the video which now has more than 21 million views. "I don't understand how this is my life," she wrote.
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Hannah left for work and came back to an empty home.
The text overlay on her now-viral video explains that she and her husband had a typical morning and that "everything was fine." After a disagreement, he stormed out of the house.
"He ended our marriage in a text message, and when I got home from work, all his stuff was gone, without even a conversation. Just gone," Hannah wrote. Her husband also deleted their pictures and blocked her on social media.
Before that argument, life seemed to be OK.
She wrote that she had just ordered a new wedding ring that arrived a few days later. They had been talking about buying soil to plant flowers. The text reads, "How did we get here?"
Someone encouraged Hannah writing, " Sounds like you just avoided a lifetime of disappointment, my friend."
The couple was living as a blended family.
In a follow-up video, Hannah explains that she and her husband were raising four kids together. He brought two into the relationship, and she had two. They didn't share any children together, but were a family, nonetheless.
The man came into Hannah's life when she was pregnant, and even though he isn't her 2-year-old's biological father, he raised her as his own, and she calls him dad.
She clarified the situation in the comments writing, "We had my stepdaughter full time. So it was me, my husband, my stepdaughter, my son, and the baby. My stepson was here every other weekend."
Hannah claims she has no idea what happened.
According to her, she still loved her husband and did nothing to provoke him to walk out on her and their family. She explained in another follow-up that she thought she and her husband had an open line of communication, but she was wrong.
"There's no way I can explain everything about my marriage in one video, nor would I want to. I am not a perfect person, and I am not without fault, but I love my husband, and I showed up every day and gave my all to him and our kids. When we made those vows, I meant them. Thank you for the supportive comments; I appreciate it beyond words," Hannah captioned another follow-up video.
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Sadly, Hannah isn't alone.
Several women commented on her original viral video with similar stories.
Like this person who wrote: "Several years together, married 6. The day I went into labor he was nowhere. Showed up 8hrs after the birth with his new girlfriend and divorce papers. We are better off without people like that."
And this one: "Married for 12 years with 2 little kids. He left for someone 10 years younger than me. 5 years and a divorce later he came begging back. Bye!!!"
According to the American Psychological Association, up to 50% of marriages end in divorce. For a marriage to work, experts say it needs to be a loving partnership.
"What makes love last is cherishing your partner and feeling lucky that you have this person in your life," Dr. Nicholas Kirsch told the APA's magazine, Monitor on Psychology. "That act of cherishing is something that some couples build."
