I’m Not Letting My Parents Meet My Kids Until They Repay My Inheritance & I Don’t Feel Bad About It

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As an adult, making the decision to cut your parents off and go no-contact isn’t usually an easy one. But for those who make the decision, it’s often absolutely necessary. Money is a big reason people may choose to go no-contact with their parents; if a parent spent money meant for their children or don’t give their children money owed to them, it’s kind of a big deal.

One woman on social media chose to go no-contact with her family over money, and even though she maintains her position, others in her family are making her have second thoughts about her decision.

The woman inherited money at a young age.

Taking to Reddit’s AITA, the woman shared that her grandparents died when she was young and left her, her older sister, and her cousins, some money. She explained that the inheritance “would have paid for my education and helped me get started in life.”

“My cousins and older sister are all debt free and own their own homes,” she wrote. “My dad decided that he could do better than the account my grandfather left my money in.”

Her parents gave her a fraction of her inheritance, causing her to cut them off.

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“I got $27,000 when I was old enough to get my money. That was about 10% of what everyone else got. My parents also lost a bunch of money that had been left to my mom,” she explained.

“I have cut my parents out of my life. They were not invited to my wedding and they have not met my kids. My sister is child free so I have their only grandchildren. My parents want to be a part of their lives. I said that if they replaced my money, with interest, I would forgive them and allow them to meet my kids,” she explained.

Her family is making her rethink her decision.

She explained that her parents claim she’s “being ridiculous and that the amount of money I’m asking for would put a huge dent in their retirement fund.”

“My sister thinks I’m being mean. I told her that she was welcome to give me her money if she didn’t think it was a factor. She said she wasn’t going to do that. I also suggested she go have a kid if she wants them to have grandchildren. Once again that was not an option. I’m still p—– that they stole my future just for my father’s ego.”

The comments are overwhelmingly supportive.

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One comment reads: “‘A huge dent in their retirement fund’ means they have it, and they owe it to you, so it’s not a dent, it’s restitution. NTA.”

“NTA family doesn’t automatically mean access to kids,” another person wrote. “You gave them terms and it’s up to them to decide.”

“Wah wah wah, they blew that money and they owe it to you,” someone else wrote. “It wasn’t left to them. It was left to you. You are not being mean. You’re being logical and realistic. That’s the price of interacting with their grandkid. Pay up or shut up. This IS a hill to die on. You are NTA. ‘But family’ is a stupid reason to keep or allow abusive people in your life.”

Many people think she should take legal action.

“NTA – get a lawyer,” someone suggested. “If it was you money and they spent it, get a lawyer and get it back.”

Another person wrote: “I’d actually be speaking to a lawyer and finding out how much a forensic accountant would charge to investigate precisely how your inheritance was invested. Because it’s 99% likely (IMHO) that it was invested in your parent’s retirement fund…”

Another comment reads: “If you can, get an attorney and demand an audit. Your parents should at least have to answer for how they lost 90% of your inheritance. They need to be held accountable in some way.”

“NTA Why didn’t he risk his retirement money instead of YOUR inheritance?” another person wondered. “You need to take your parents to court to get the rest of your inheritance. Your dad may have lost the money, but the court will at least make him pay what he has. He didn’t mind losing your money but kept his retirement money safe. No, it’s unlikely the court will let him play you like that.”