When I was married, I left a lot of things up to my husband and I didn’t even realize it. He paid the bills and was in charge of finances. I never really knew how much money we had, and because I stayed home with the kids and didn’t bring in any income, I was hesitant and felt that I had to ask him each time I wanted to spend money.
If I wanted something for the house or to buy a new outfit, I usually cleared it with him first
With the realization came a lot of peace
As far as the finances are concerned, I love managing my money, saving, and being able to spend it without having to consult with anyone else. I realize that is a big part of marriage, and I’m not saying I’ll never do it again, but I am saying I’ll always have my own checking account and I will never be dependent on anyone to make and manage our money.
Doing this by myself has been so empowering. I love watching my savings account grow as much as I love impulsively buying a handbag that wasn't in my budget and not having to hide it or overexplain myself.
It's been life-changing
But the one thing that has brought me the most peace is the fact that I’ve been through something really hard and heartbreaking and I’m stronger because of it. I don’t mean that every day is peaceful and filled with dreamy thoughts. What I’m saying is that at times when I feel really anxious and alone, all I have to do is remind myself of how far I’ve come, and it sets my mind at ease because I know I can handle anything that comes into my life.
