A prenuptial agreement, or prenup, is a contract entered into before marriage by two people that outlines how assets will be split should the couple later divorce after marriage. Once only thought to be for the wealthy, more people are opting for prenups because they are marrying later in life after they have achieved certain professional and financial success.
Divorces where the parties disagree on financial issues often cost a lot more time and money and come with huge emotional tolls. The goals of a prenuptial agreement are to decide — while parties are still in love and in agreement — on issues such as how assets (and debts) will be distributed in a divorce. The idea is to ultimately reduce conflict when the love is lost between the parties.
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Pros and cons of prenuptial agreements
The benefits of a prenuptial agreement lie in preventing disagreements in a divorce. The more a couple disagrees in a divorce, the more time is spent with attorneys and in court, driving the costs of the divorce well beyond the cost of the prenup. When a prenup goes uncontested, it can also reduce the emotional stress that happens in the divorce and both parties can ideally move on faster.
The cons of the prenuptial agreement is that it can create a lingering feeling of distrust in a relationship. Additionally, it can discount how a spouse can affect the growth of a career or assets during a marriage that they later have no right to per the terms of the prenup.
Not every prenup goes uncontested. “Courts will, at times, nullify prenups, although it is not a common occurrence," Olechno says. "Prenups will typically be nullified under the following circumstances: The agreement is fraudulent, the agreement was coerced, signed under duress, or signed without mental capacity, or the agreement is unconscionable. Each state has different standards on what grounds someone can overturn a prenup.”
Part of the reason my divorce was so costly is that I contested my prenup based on coercion and duress while pregnant. I’ve been asked by family and friends on more than one occasion about whether I’d ever sign another. The truth is, I do believe that prenups have a valid place in modern marriages; I just don’t feel people should believe they have no choice in the matter, like I did.
To hear experienced insight from divorce attorney Jonna Spilbor on signing a prenup, check out this episode of Divorce Tips:
