Moms everywhere are begging their husbands to just take initiative. Unfortunately, though, content about women carrying the bulk of the mental load is far too relatable for many moms, who often end up feeling more like project managers in their own homes.
In one viral video that shows a husband asking his wife a bunch of questions about how to take care of his own kids, the mom concludes that, in her next life, she’d love to be a husband instead.
The mom said she sometimes wonders how her husband survives without her.
In her video, as she’s clearly busy doing something else, her husband comes into the room and asks her to remind him what they were supposed to be doing that day. Clearly frustrated, the mom just replies with, “Their parade.” But her husband’s questions don’t stop there. He then asks her, “Do they need their costumes and stuff?” (Queue eye roll). The mom explains, “I already got them dressed this morning. You didn’t hear me screaming at them?”
Somehow, the dad “didn’t hear anything.” Oof.
He then asks more questions.
The dad proceeds to ask his wife more questions about what to do to prepare for the parade, like, “Do we need to bring food?” When she tells him he doesn’t need to worry about any of that, he says, “So, nothing? I just got to show up with you at ten o’clock?”
After he leaves the room, the mom mimics him, clearly super annoyed that he seemed to have no idea what was going on and just asked a bunch of questions instead of taking any initiative. In the caption, the exasperated mom wrote, “Some days I wonder how he would survive without me. Other days he pulls his weight. Yesterday- yesterday, I wanted to throat punch him.”
Moms in the comments were angry.
After watching the video, some of them said they were mad at their own husbands, because unfortunately, they’ve experienced the same thing. And it’s exhausting. “Why is it always ‘what do we need to do…?’ 😂😂😂😂” one woman questioned. “I need you to stop trying to use my brain while I’m using it! Use yours!”
Another person added, “For some reason when they ask ‘what can I do to help’ while it’s CLEAR so much can be done to help without even asking, makes me furious.”
And how did he manage to not hear anything?
Why did he wait until the last minute to ask whether anything needed to be done? “I didn’t hear anything is SENDING ME,” a third person commented. Someone else wrote, “My favorite thing they do is ask 30 minutes before the event if we need to bring anything? 😣”
When women complain about mental load, there’s always at least one man who chimes in to say that she could just give her husband a list of things to do, as if their wives are truly project managers. In response to comments like these, one woman explained, “Who gives her a task? Who organizes her responsibilities? Who tells her what to prepare or when to get the kids ready or what to feed them or where the pants are? TAKE THE INITIATIVE LIKE AN ADULT. The bar really is in hell.”
After the video sparked backlash, the mom shared an update.
In it, she joked about how her husband does contribute — by doing completely unrelated tasks. “My last reel made a TON of people angry,” she wrote over the video.
“Hubs wanted you to know he does do stuff around here. Here he is washing the roof to prep for our baby shower.” She jokingly added, “Because apparently we will be giving roof tours.”
