To some people, names don't matter much. But for some, naming their children is a really big deal. A mom on Reddit made the decision to change her daughter's middle name after coming to an important realization about her mother, whom her daughter shared a name with. Of course, being that it is her mother, she was concerned about the change, but ultimately had to do what felt right to her.
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After undergoing therapy, the woman realized how "messed up" her mom is. "The fact that even seven miles away she only comes over if we ask her to babysit… Sometimes a month will pass without seeing her. She acts as if she doesn't care to mend the pain or repair or even be an active part of our life more than an occasional babysitter," she shared.
"Long story short, my daughter's middle name. I'm dropping off the document to start the name change tomorrow and am I being dramatic? We are starting school enrollments and I would like for it to be changed beforehand. I would never tell my mum. My daughter doesn't even know her middle name yet," the woman explained. "It's not to hurt my mother or get back at her. I honestly get sick to my stomach when I see the middle name. And I feel she is someone who doesn't deserve the legacy or honor of a namesake."
"Am I being dramatic for wanting to change her name when it was a mistake in the first place? After someone who just really wasn't that great of a person."
The comment section was full of people validating her choice.
"As someone who wishes her name had been changed at birth, DO IT. Your daughter will never know the difference, but the change will bring a positive change to your peace of mind. That is worth all the drama," one comment read.
"Not being dramatic. My middle name was my grandmothers name, and a nastier woman has never drawn breath. When I got married and changed my last name I changed my middle name too. That b—h is still alive, and I know she knows what I did," someone else said.
"When I realized I’d had enough of familial abuse – I changed my last name. Not to spite anyone – but carrying the energy of the family name really weighed on me. Your daughter is never going to miss it and your mom won’t even notice. But you will feel better."
