In an ideal world, wedding ceremonies and receptions would always play out perfectly. The wedding party and contracted service providers would show up on time, no guest would get blackout drunk or dress inappropriately, and folks would have an amazing time celebrating the marriage of a beloved couple. Unfortunately, wedding planning fails and bad behavior from guests happen despite the best efforts of brides and grooms.
One couple on their way to the altar decided to lay out expectations for their guests in black and white. The bride and groom sent out a list of 15 rules to follow during their ceremony and reception, and some of the guidelines left a sour taste in the mouths of Reddit users.
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A bride and groom sent out a list of 15 rules guests had to follow at their wedding and reception.
On April 18, a Reddit user posted a list of 15 “wedding rules” sent by a bride and a groom ahead of their nuptials in the /weddingshaming subReddit. “If someone sent this to me I would simply just not go,” they person wrote along with a photo of the card. The first five rules were as follows:
- This is [bride and groom’s names] big day, not yours.
- Do not get in the photographer’s way.
- The attire is BLACK and/or GOLD not red, blue, green and definitely NO WHITE!
- Do not rearrange seats, we have a seating chart for a reason.
- If you didn’t put out any money for the wedding, keep your should’ve, could’ve, would’ve to yourself. Your opinion is irrelevant.
The blunt laying out of rules continued.
The next rules on the list seemed more like standard wedding etiquette: Pace yourself when drinking and no big announcements or proposals. Likewise, No. 10 instructed guests to use a specific hashtag when posting photos on social media. However, rules No. 8 and 9 were a bit direct/oddly specific:
- If you can’t handle or dislike the music being played, simply go home. This is a celebration, not a funeral.
- This is a ‘Taking over for the 99′ & 2000’s’ type of event, so there will be twerking.
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Finally, some of the last few rules came off as snarky.
Rule No. 11 instructed wedding guests, “Do not sit down all night.” And although No. 12 was understandable (“no outside liquor”), the next two were downright snarky:
- Refer back to rule #1.
- The bride and groom said what they said!
Finally, the bride and groom declared rule No. 15: “Turn it ALLLL the way up!”
Many Redditors thought the list of rules was over the top.
In the comments, they sounded off with their reactions. One person wrote, “What kind of list is this too chaotic for me,” while another wondered, “Is this their strategy for lowering their headcount?”
Others took issue with the no-sitting rule. One wrote, “No sitting all night? I guess they’re not inviting any disabled people? People with chronic health problems? I’ll go to this wedding and wear a pair of hoka sneakers and not high heels.”
Someone else joked, “‘Grandma! No sitting! Get your a– out of that chair and start twerking!'”
Yet another Reddit user commented, “Sounds fun. I wouldn’t go either. Most of those rules are common sense but if you have to type them out for people, then you’re kind of an AH. And no, I don’t want to see anyone twerking. Since I don’t dance, I probably would be sitting all night.”
Still, some thought the rules themselves weren't *that* bad — but the approach definitely was.
Many other folks took issue with the delivery of the wedding rules and not the rules themselves. As one Redditor pointed out, “I feel like all of these could be rewritten to not sound like an a–hole.”
“Some of this is cringe, but a lot of it is common sense,” another person commented. “I feel like if you have to tell your friends and family how to act right, you need better friends and family.”
Yet another Redditor echoed, “Yeah. None of the rules are that bad. But it’s weird that some of them have to be said (who are you inviting to your wedding that you have to tell them to not complain about your wedding?) and some could be said much more polite and fun.”
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