When a couple finds out they are pregnant, there are so many things to look forward to. Many expectant parents are eager to find out their baby's gender so they can begin to prepare for their arrival. Sure, it is a lot of fun, but some huge responsibilities also come with having a baby. One of the most important is naming that child.
We've certainly heard about many couples who can't quite agree on baby names. There are even expert consultants nowadays who charge big bucks to help parents decide. One first time mom-to-be posted in Reddit's AITA forum because she and her husband absolutely cannot agree on what to name their baby girl. He wants to name her after himself, but the name is just a little too weird for mom.
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They had a boy's name, no problem.
The original poster, 36, explained in a post to Reddit's Am I the A–hole forum that she and her husband, 38, are thrilled to be welcoming a baby girl in a few months. When they found out she was pregnant, they decided to name the baby boy Stuart after the father. OP loved the idea of a junior, and things were great. But when they found out the baby was a girl, it got a bit "murky."
"My husband suggested Stuarta. No, you're not having a stroke. Apparently, his logic is that since Stuart ends in 't,' we can just add an 'a' to make it feminine.," she wrote. "I tried explaining why that doesn't quite work, how it sounds more like a furniture brand than a human name, how she'd be endlessly correcting people and explaining its origin. He's adamant though, says it "honors" him while giving our daughter a unique name."
OP loves her husband, but Stuarta is a no-go for her.
Her husband is apparently totally fixated on Stuarta and isn't willing to compromise, but OP is not going to budge on this one.
"Now, I love my husband dearly, and I understand wanting to honor family. But I can't imagine subjecting our daughter to a lifetime of awkward stares and endless questions about her "unusual" name," she wrote. "I also worry about potential bullying and the impact it could have on her self-esteem."
Is she wrong for giving Stuarta a hard pass?
There was a lot of talk about this unusual name.
Not a single comment was in support of OP's husband or the feminized version of his own name.
At least one person outright hated it. "Oh, dear Lord, that's practically child abuse. NTA, mama. Keep up the good fight. Please don't let him name her… that," the commenter wrote.
And another Redditor pointed out that baby naming isn't a dictatorship: "Naming a child is a two yes and one no situation. Means you need two times yes for a name to be it and one no to make sure that name is not the name you choose. Works both ways if you'd ask me."
This husband and future father seems like a lot to some people.
Redditors wondered why this was all about him.
It sounded a bit aggressive to this person. "Why does the name of your daughter have to honour him? Narcissistic much? Besides, the name is absurd and will set her up for bullying," the person wrote. "It sounds like your husband really doesn't want to have a daughter. The name feels like a punishment for being a girl."
And kids aren't prizes, others pointed out.
"Yes!! OP is definitely [Not the A–hole.] She is growing a person, not a tribute! If hubby wants to be honored, get him a trophy. But please don't saddle a woman with an awful name just because her father thinks of her as an accessory," someone commented.
Another commenter made an excellent point: "Tell him he only gets one kid named after him, so if he goes with Stuarta now, he'll never get a Stuart Jnr."
Other pointed out that his daughter already will have one of his names – the dad's last name.
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Sorry, but Stuarta's not going to happen.
Redditors agreed that OP has a say, and there is no way she should let her husband bully her into giving their daughter such a strange name.
This person had a tremendous piece of advice: "Girl, it is super simple. He gets to choose the name when he pushes out the baby. Why is it only HIM being honored and not you???" the person wrote. "By the way, you need to let your nurses at the hospital know about this. I have read some horror stories here on Reddit where dad's or MILs have named the baby and signed the birth certificate."
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