It’s an age-old question: Do parents actually have a favorite child? When kids are growing up, it often feels like parents favor one child over another, but that’s usually not the case. Being a parent is a lot of work, and any parent will tell you that kids have different needs. Parenting each child based on what they need that day/week/month means that sometimes one child gets more attention — but that doesn’t mean the love you have for each of your children changes.
Moms took to Reddit to talk about whether they actually have a favorite child, and the overwhelming answer was “No.” Of course, relationships go through phases, so some moms admit there are definitely times when they connect with one child more. Here’s what moms had to say:
Moms who love their kids equally:
“I have two children and cannot imagine loving one more than the other. I know it happens, but it’s rare, right?” –Electronic_Fox_6383
“They both get on my nerves and I’d scalp someone for both.” –milfunderstood
“I just had my second baby and I can honestly say that I don’t have a preference. I love them both so much it’s stupid, and I can’t imagine loving one more than the other. They’re both so special that I couldn’t choose even if my life depended on it.” –Perfect_Judge
“I don’t have a favorite child. My son is the oldest and my daughter is the youngest. I love my son, he’s my only boy and my first baby. I love my daughter, she’s my only girl and my last baby. They have such distinct and interesting personalities and skills, and I could never pick one being the favorite over the other.” –the_courier76
“I love my two for the individuals that they are. They are both my favorite. One is a boy and one is a girl. I couldn’t honestly say one is better than the other, they both share my whole heart.” –TamtamBe
Moms who admit there are times they connect with one child more:
“Depends on the day and which ones p—ed me off the most! 😆 I have 2 boys and very different relationships with both but love them equally. There’s been stages where I may have briefly preferred one over the other but it balances out.” –HeartBeetz
“I don’t have an overall favorite but I do have situational favorites. Favorite kid to shop with, favorite kid to talk aviation with, favorite kid to cook with, etc.” –ZetaWMo4
“My favorite is whomever has p—ed me off the least today. Of course, they’re twins, so this changes roughly every 3 minutes. I think they spend approximately the same amount of time as the favorite. Overall, the dog is probably winning right now.” –DocMondegreen
“I don’t have an overall favorite, but I have activities that I favor one child for over the other. For example one kid is my shopping pal and the other hates shopping. The anti-shopping kid is my movie pal and the other one doesn’t like theatres. I think it works out where they both feel like favorites in different ways.” –ejly
“I love them the same amount. Enjoying their company is another matter of course. In childhood, one needed much more help, so the ‘easy’ one (younger) got less from me and more from other people. Now that they’re they’re adults I vibe better with the older one, go figure.” –Fumquat
