It’s not uncommon for men to speak openly about being sexually frustrated (especially with the rise of incel communities and the manosphere), but a lot of women feel a sense of shame around their own sexual desires. It’s completely normal for people of all genders to want romance, intimacy, and pleasure, but talking about these desires is often considered taboo.
When men are sexually frustrated, everyone assumes they’ll just … take things into their own hands (literally). Someone took to Reddit to ask other women, “Where do you channel your sexual frustration if you’re not into casual sex?” Here’s what women said:
Self-Pleasure
“Toys. My air pulsator alone in five minutes can do a better job than most men I’ve had can in 30 min.” –noonecaresat805
“If sexual frustration means horniness, then masturbation but I’m not frustrated about being horny.” –centerfoldangel
“Getting myself off, usually with the help of toys and some porn.” –ukpunjabivixen
“owning ~50 sex toys helps.” –indiscoverable
“Reading smutty fanfics and masturbating.” –Sapphire_Dreams1024
Distraction
“Gaming. Killing people and monsters in the most violent ways possible 🙂 I am not okay.” –agentofmidgard
“I go to the gym. It’s an ol reliable for me.” –XivUwU_Arath
“I like to make myself more busy with work and different goals.” –IcyRuin01
“Plan a vacation lol. What’s better than mediocre sex? All inclusive resort on the ocean, obviously. You can playfully flirt with the bartender if you want and then never see him again. It’s the perfect man.” –SinfullySinless
“Hitting things works well. Smacking golf balls at a driving range. Also sex is supposed to be a release of frustration?! That’s kinda depressing.” –deadplant5
“Working out. Twice a day.” –Evening_Analyst2385
“People channel their frustration into casual sex? Idk I just play video games, I talk to a friend about what’s bothering me, eat food, have a little cry. The last thing I’d want if I’m in a bad mood is sex.” –Spaceslippers
“All problems are thrown at an indoor rock climbing or bouldering wall.” –MajesticTomatillo
FWB/Situationships
“Masturbation, when I’m single. I’ve also occasionally had an FWB who was an actual friend first and foremost. Casual sex with strangers is a no-go for me but it feels less casual to me when it’s with someone I know and trust.” –celestialism
“Masturbation and I have a FWB I hookup with every 2nd week-ish.” –Own-Car1284
