Jinger Duggar has already written two autobiographical books, and now, she’s releasing a third. On Tuesday, Jinger announced that her new book, People Pleaser, will be out in January, and it will follow what she’s learned while working to break free of her people-pleasing habits on the road to discovering who she really is. According to what she’s shared so far, it sounds like it could be juicy — she’s already promised she’s revealing new stories about her personal life that she’s never shared before.
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Jinger announced the news in an Instagram post.
In the video, Jinger can be seen walking to a couch and sitting down as she says, “My name is Jinger, and I have a confession to make. I am a people pleaser.”
“I am so excited to finally announce that my new book People Pleaser comes out on January 14!” she wrote in her caption, adding that the book is now available to preorder.
Jinger was inspired to write the book after she discovered there were a lot of people on a 'journey of self-discovery' with her.
In an interview with People about her new book, Jinger said she realized she needed to change her people-pleasing tendencies when she noticed she was “so consumed with what everyone around me thought about me” that it was affecting her relationships with people she really cares about.
“I saw how it just started to get serious when it started affecting my relationships or just really causing me to reject certain relationships because I was afraid of what that person might think of me,” she said.
Her habits even took a toll on her health.
“I thought like, ‘Oh, I’m too fat.’ Even though I wasn’t,” she told the magazine. “I was afraid of eating too much because I was like, ‘Oh no, my friends aren’t going to like me because they’re skinner than me.’ Thankfully, I had awesome people who came around me and helped me out of that struggle of just struggling with an eating disorder. That’s where I saw it first showed up, and it just kind of continued.”
This isn’t the first time that Jinger has spoken about struggling with an eating disorder — she first opened up about it at length in her 2023 book Becoming Free Indeed.
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She admitted that she has more of a 'passive' personality.
She said she likes to “be on everyone’s good side or being a peacemaker” but realized that meant she wasn’t able to speak up for herself when she needed to at the cost of living up to the “imaginary expectations” she believed people were placing on her.
“I think that is something that is in our faces every day,” she said in the People interview. “We wake up, we scroll, we see everybody’s perfect lives, and we’re trying to compare ourselves to then meet up to their standards of what they expect us to be.”
Through being vulnerable herself, Jinger hopes she can help others who have had similar struggles.
After being afraid of the “backlash” she might get from her first book, Becoming Free Indeed, Jinger wants to share what she’s learned since then.
“I’m like, ‘Okay, I want to share from a vulnerable place of where people-pleasing will lead you to isolation, to push out people that you want a relationship with, but you’re just too afraid to show your imperfections and flaws,” she told the magazine. “And come to a place where we can love people from a place of not trying to gain their acceptance or approval, but just to love them for who they are and be true to who you are and not to waiver and try to become a clone of everybody around you.”
