Even well before having children, simply living together and being married can serve as a game-changer. After all, when laundry, dishes, fix-it jobs, bills, and a variety of other real-life headaches creep into the picture, both partners' sex drives may suffer. Then add the responsibilities of parenthood to the mix, and woof! Although having kids doesn't necessarily kill couples' sex lives, most parents will say that intimacy after kids is, at the very least, different than it was before kids. And it's quite likely that certain actions are more of a turn-on than they used to be. For instance, the goofy stereotype that women get all hot and bothered from seeing their partners cleaning? Well, it's a goofy stereotype for a reason!
With everything on their plates, moms obviously appreciate having their partner do his part to pitch in with just about any to-do, especially the chores that are absolute musts and complete headaches, such as deep cleaning the bathroom or scrubbing down dishes in the kitchen. And when long days take their toll, of course they're thrilled to see their partner take the reins on those kinds of tasks. So thrilled that something innately non-sexual becomes a total turn-on.
Of course, deep cleaning isn't the only thing moms love seeing their partner do. From taking care of the kids on weekend mornings so that they can get a few more Zs to coaching soccer to coming home smelling a little bit like laundry detergent and a smidge like perspiration from a day of hard work, women find some of the most basic, everyday things will get them hot and bothered. No shame in that! And if a kitchen sink scrubbing or Christmas tree decorating is going to make for a hot romp between the sheets, hey, that's certainly a win-win.
Here are 22 things completely non-sexual things that get moms hot and bothered.
Cooking From Scratch
"My hubs cooks from scratch. He literally looks in an empty fridge and makes a kick ass delicious meal every dang time." — Rachel M., Connecticut
Dirty Work Clothes
"Seeing him in his dirty work clothes with mud or grease from a hard day's work. Muddy boots too." — Brittany M., Ohio
Carpet Cleaning
"For my birthday, he had our carpets deep cleaned." — Christina O., California
Leading the Cleaning Charge
"Getting all the kids to clean the house." — Jade R., Massachusetts
Taking Initiative
"More than anything, when a chore or task is completed without me having to ask. My needs/our families' needs being anticipated without my prompting is super-hot." — Megan L., Texas
Morning Caffeine Fix
"Brings me coffee in the morning! Be still my heart." — Nichole A., South Carolina
Smoky Hair
"Hubs is a firefighter, and when they’re doing a lot of training at work, even after showering I can still smell the smoke in his hair, and just for whatever reason that does it for me!" — Rebecca G., Indiana
Post-Dinner Duty
"Cleans up after my messy cooking — without me asking!" — Kristina V., Michigan
Checking Off Honey-Dos
"Does what I asked him to do! Tonight, he hung the chalkboard in my daughter's playroom, and I only had to ask once!" — Jessica H., Maryland
Getting Along With In-Laws
"Watching him interact with my family as his own." — Amanda M., South Carolina
Babywearing
"Wearing our baby." — Rachel T., Oxford, Oxfordshire, UK
Cleaning the Bathroom
"Deep-cleaning the bathroom is hot!" — Amber P., Georgia
Dancing in the Kitchen
"Comes and dances with me in the kitchen. He has always done it since we first started dating — comes up behind me while I cook, and spins me around and dances with me. I love it. Sometimes it's slow, other times it's a two step or a swing dance, but it's my favorite." — Bailie M., Nevada
Doing Weekend Morning Duties
"Gets up with the kids on the weekends — when he's home! — and lets me sleep in." — Becky D., South Carolina
Keeping the Gas Tank Full
"He doesn't tell me ahead of time, but he fills up my van, so I never have to pump gas." — Becky D., South Carolina
Planning Ahead For That PM Pick-Me-Up
"My hubby puts a cup of coffee in the fridge for me every morning so that it’ll be iced coffee when I’m ready for an afternoon pick-me-up." — Caitlin D., South Carolina
Busting Out the Holiday Decorations
"I love when he gets the Christmas decorations — without me asking!" — Morgan B., Pennsylvania
Talking Nerdy
"I love his nerdy talk. He knows so much about outer space and science. Gets me every time." — Lindsay P., Illinois
The Way He Smells
"I love when he takes off his top shirt and hugs me with just his thermal. The smell of laundry detergent and sweat gets me every time. I stole a thermal to sleep with when he's away!" — Megan L., Maryland
Doing Math
"He solves math problems in his head. He’s the human calculator!" — Kristen K., New Jersey
Doting Dad-ing
"Just watching how awesome he is with our kids." — Kelly K., California
Coaching
"Watching him coach micro soccer league." — Lorraine S., New York
