Three people sharing a bathroom can be torture, but as long as everyone is quick and respectful of how much time they spend using the "facilities," it shouldn't be too much of a hassle. Unfortunately for one woman, her husband didn't seem to get the memo. He spends sometimes hours using the bathroom every day, and it's driving her absolutely nuts. No matter how much she tells him to hurry up, he seems to be unbothered that he's hogging up the space, and now she's looking for advice on how to get her husband to realize he's being rude.
There is only one bathroom in the couple's house, and that's become a problem because of her husband's long stints in the porcelain palace.
As she explained in a post on Reddit, her husband can spend anywhere from 45 minutes to an hour in the bathroom, and one time he even spent two hours on the toilet. "Any attempts to persuade him to hurry are futile and the boy (her son) and I left to fend for ourselves," she wrote. Things are so bad that her son has even made himself a little spot in the backyard where he can "relieve" himself if the bathroom is in use.
The problem has been going on for years, she wrote. "I remember being on maternity leave, and being so resentful that he would come home and disappear for an hour or so while I waited with our newborn. I was so mad that he could take that time for himself so easily when I couldn't even find 15 minutes to shower!"
And to boot, the wife said her husband straight-up refuses to hurry and it's driving her crazy.
Though she doesn't want to make him rush his "bodily function," is she wrong for feeling like he's being a little selfish?
Not to mention that when she's gone into the bathroom after him "it doesn't even smell! Zero evidence that he was 'using the facilities,'" she wrote. Which begs the question: What the heck is her husband doing in there?
Now the frustrated mama is looking for advice. Is she wrong for wanting her hubby to hurry or is she being "overbearing"?
People seemed to agree on this one: Her husband was abusing his share of the bathroom.
One person was deeply suspicious of what her husband was doing in there. "That sounds excessive and rude. Is he reading? Needs a quiet place? If it really takes him that long to (expletive) he needs to start taking fiber twice daily. Or see a doctor. Something is up!" the person wrote.
And someone else suspected her husband was up to something else completely. "He probably playing on his phone or maybe he’s even relieving himself in a different way but either way he needs to realize there’s ONE bathroom," the person commented.
Another person thought he was ducking out on his parenting duties. "I don’t know about 100 percent, I think he’s running away from taking care of his child(ren), which is arguably way worse," the person wrote.
But some people thought the mom was wrong for trying to get her husband off the pot.
One person thought spending hours on the toilet was no big deal. "30-60 min to take a dump is not unreasonable," the person wrote. "That's how long it takes me every day. There's no way to 'hurry up' unless you don't care about your husband's hygiene. Try getting him a bidet or something instead of trying to police his digestion and subsequent hygiene."
"You sound neurotic," wrote another person. "Let the man have one hour to himself in the washroom. That leaves 23 for you and your kid. Also, it sounds like you're jealous so when he comes out, tell him to watch the kid and then go have an hour bath. Problem solved."
"Maybe your husband just takes a long time to poop," someone else commented. "I know I find it harder to make a movement when I know people can hear it [….] Poop doesn't always stink up the bathroom by the way. It depends on your diet and other factors. I'm sure if you were having menstruation issues you wouldn't appreciate being rushed in the bathroom."
Although we can't say for certain who is in the right or the wrong here, it might behoove this family to invest in a second bathroom.
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