It's the year 2021, can we stop pretending that parents/moms don't have sex? Great. Sex is a part of life and a great way to bond with one's partner. Finding the time for it to happen isn't easy with kids, but as long as it's consensual and fun for everyone involved, we support it. We also support finding ways for parents to make sexy time for themselves happen in the first place. One way to do that? Gifts.
Not just any gifts though, gifts that will get your partner excited and in the mood for fun, and we found 20 that may do the the trick. Yes, lingerie is included because that's often a good idea, but so are couples' vibrators, fun foreplay card games, silk scarves, and body oil. Be as direct or as subtle as you want, but choosing any one of these items will be a gift that keeps on giving.
Sexy Lingerie
Lingerie may seem like the go-to gift for a sexy gift for couples, but that's because it's a good one. It's simple, can be as affordable or splurgy as you want it to be, and there are tons of styles to choose from. And of course, they are exciting to add to the mix and even make someone feel good about themselves.
Pure Instinct Fragrance
Any perfume or cologne can be a sexy gift, as scent can be sexy when used right. So fragrance is a good idea, like this one called Pure Instinct. But a step further than fragrances are pheromones, which adapt to a person's individual scent to create one that supposedly attracts others. It's fun to try, whether it works or not.
Choose Your Pleasure Game
Games are fun in normal circumstances, but they're underrated when it comes to having sexy time with your partner. It's simply prompted fun that can give the couple some direction. In Choose Your Pleasure, "choose from 52 sexy scenario cards to live out your fantasies and discover new ones together."
Sexy 6 Foreplay Dice Game
Roll the dice but make every outcome a sexy one with this Love Honey game. It's called Sexy 6 and each side of the die has scenarios that instruct the couple to try new moves, explore different body parts, which sex act and even what location everything will happen at. It makes foreplay easy and fun.
Lesbian Sex Position Cards
Love Honey's Sex! game is geared toward same-sex couples, specifically lesbian couples who want to gift the other foreplay prompts, too. There are 45 sex position prompts and "each card features a saucy illustration of the position or sexy scenario, as well as a description."
Aromatherapy Sensual Massage Oil
Massage oil is a great gift even when its not meant to be for sexy time, because it feels so luxurious on the skin. But this specific sexy time oil will elevate a massage session and prompt couples to explore the other's body with warmth and ease. This sensual massage oil from Amazon in lavender makes a sexy and relaxing oil option.
Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel
This towel is adorable if you don't think too hard about it. It's called a "Love Mop" and it's a towel meant specifically to wipe up perspiration and other bodily fluids after sex or foreplay. It's cute and fun and definitely will make the receiver of this gift want to give it a go.
Tonight or Not Tonight Pillows
Sometimes couples are ready to rip each other's clothes off and sometimes, it's just been too long or too tiring of a day. Instead of having to explain, just get these pillow cases which say it all for you. One side says "tonight" and the other side says "not tonight" to make having the "should we?" conversation much more fun.
Tiani 24K Couples Massage Toy
Couples vibrators are always a good idea and don't believe anyone who says otherwise. This one, the Tiani 24K, is "designed to be worn internally by the woman during intercourse" but has strong enough vibrations to make both partners feel good during sex. Plus, it's "flexible enough to suit all body types and positions."
BabeLube Silk Lube
Lube can really turn a painful or even so-so sexual experience into an amazing one. Bodies could always use some extra lubrication, which makes things feel better, so why not have a bottle ready? This lube from Babeland, called Silk BabeLube, is based on purified water with "no added flavors or scents, this long-lasting lube is hypoallergenic, non-toxic, non-staining, latex friendly, and 100% vegan friendly."
We-Vibe Couples Vibrator
There is no such thing as too many couples vibrators or toys, and that brings us to the We-Vibe chorus vibrator. It has a "squeeze" remote control that can be used by one person on their own or by one partner while the other puts or holds the vibe in place. Just "insert Chorus into the vagina during sex," which "stimulates the clitoris, G-spot, and penis all at once."
Operation Allgasm Bundle
Bundles make great gifts because you get not just one gift but a few for a discounted price. And that's not just true for beauty products or clothes. With the Operation Allgasm package from Lelo you can gift a vibrator and clit stimulator together. Lelo is currently having a big sale on all toys and products.
Scarf (Restraint)
$64
from
nearerthemoon/Etsy
Scarves are common gifts around the holidays, but not usually ones meant for the bedroom. We hadn't thought about this before, but we think it's a fabulous idea. One Etsy seller a scarf for BDSM or erotic play that's fringed and extra long. It's soft, safe and super simple but super sexy if one should find it in their stocking this holiday season.
Calvin Klein Boxer Briefs
$42.5
from
Calvin Klein
Partners in tight boxers that show … things? Sounds sexy to us. Gift your partner the boxer briefs of their, er, your dreams because no matter what, these Calvin Klein ones will turn everyone on and it's a win for both parties. These are black cotton briefs that come in a three-pack but the brand has other options, too.
Vibrator
$149
from
Pure Romance
Sometimes, or rather, a lot of times, all it takes is a simple vibrator or dildo to get things amped up and to get in that sexy mood. It's hard sometimes for people partnered up to get one for themselves which is why gifting it is a way to say to them, "let's up the ante here, on me."
Sex Position Pillow
Sex pillows make sex feel so much better. They angle the back and pelvis so that penetration, in missionary or other various sex positions, feels deep and amazing. It's shaped better for the task at hand than regular pillows and can be fun to play with. Plus it's a great out-of-the-box gift for someone who just wants to feel comfortable during sex.
Body Massager
We love a good multi-use tool, especially when it comes to sex toys. This body massager is adorable but packs a vibrating punch as it's meant to massage all parts of the body. Start out with the neck, arms, and legs until it reached the other, more sensitive parts of the body. It comes in a super chic cream color, too.
Road Trip Sex Toy Travel Bag
Sexy time while traveling is not always easy but it's so fun. When the couple are parents, or care for tiny humans most of the time, a trip might be the rare opportunity to use these sexy gifts. That's why gifting a sex toy "travel kit" is a perfect way to take the fun on the go, discretely.
'So Low' Lotion Moisturizing Cream
Not everyone is able to be with their partners all the time, so to give them a little something to keep themselves occupied while they're away, we recommend the gift of a good "me-time" cream, like this one from Cake. The "So-Low" moisturizing cream is formulated for self-pleasure and is "a non-greasy coconut oil" formula.
Shower Gel or Bubble Bath
$22
from
Pure Romance
Sexy time just doesn't have to be on a bed or any dry surface. Get your partner excited and sensual by gifting them something they can use in the shower or bath, alone or with you. There are aromatic shower gels and bubble baths out there. Pure Romances' shower and bubble bath formula is just the sexy and relaxing thing your spouse needs.
*Psst: if you choose to purchase an item from this post, Cafemom may receive a small cut. Each item and price is up to date at the time of publication; however, an item may be sold out or the price may be different at a later date.
