Being a Black girl is awesome, but society's ignorance consistently tried to bring us down. Our hair is constantly judged, our skin tones are made fun of, andĀ it seems like people always have something negative to say about Black girls. And it certainly doesn't get easier when you're a Black girl dating a white guy.
Interracial dating is technically no longer taboo, but considering the way Black girls are judged for dating white guys, you'd think otherwise ā and it comes at us from all sides, from being made to feel guilty for dating outside of your race to being told you're not good enough to date a white person.Ā
Here are just a few examples of the things Black girls everywhere are tired of hearing when they step out with a white guy:
"You must be really special if he's dating you."
Because a white guy would never risk dating a Black girl, unless there was somethingĀ so special about her, right?
"Wow, he thinks you're really pretty... are you mixed?"
Listen up, you sad, confused human being: You don't have to be mixed to be a pretty Black girl.
"So, you don't like Black guys?"
Dating a white guy doesn't mean I'm suddenly turned off by every Black man on the face of the earth.
"You guys are going to have the cutest babies!"
How about you not fetishize our non-existent children? Thanks.
"I never thought he would date a Black girl."
I never thought you would have the courage to say that to my face.
"So, you think you're too good to date within your own race?"
I think that I'm going to date anyone who recognizes how awesome I am, and treats me like a queen.
"How does he deal with your hair?"
Last time I checked, my hair was on my head, not his. And unless he can do my hair for me, it's none of his concern.
"You must not be like other Black people."
And by that, do you mean I don't fit into certain Black stereotypes? Girl, bye.
"It's so great that he can look past your race."
My Blackness is nothing to look past. If he can't accept it, then there's the door.
"Your relationship is proof that racism is over!"
Actually, racism will always be around as long as white supremacy still exists. But nice try!
