Emotions can run high while planning a wedding and on the big day itself. Sometimes, brides get a bad rap for becoming “territorial” over other people or events outshining them. But a Reddit user recently vented about getting engaged three days after her brother’s wedding. Now, he and her SIL are livid.
The newly engaged woman took to the AITA subreddit to explain her plight. Evidently, she and her fiancé caused bad blood after he proposed in the same state where the wedding was held just a few days after the ceremony. She has since asked people online to weigh in on whether they were in the wrong.
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The OP explained that she and her boyfriend lingered in the same state after her brother got married.
The Reddit user took to the AITA subreddit with a situation that attracted a ton of attention (11,000 upvotes, to be exact).
“My brother and his now wife got married three days ago,” the OP (original poster) explained, noting it was a “small destination ceremony” with fewer than 15 people. “My now fiancé and I extended our trip after everyone went home and spent a couple of days exploring the Grand Canyon.”
She got engaged three days after her brother's wedding, and now, her brother and SIL are livid.
The OP said she and her boyfriend traveled “a couple hours north of the wedding,” which is where he proposed. Surprisingly, the brother and SIL did not react to the news of their engagement as anticipated.
“When I shared the news with my brother and now SIL, he responded with hostility saying that it looked like we were competing,” she noted in her post.
After seeing the newlyweds were upset, the OP apologized.
“I apologized, quickly realizing that he was advocating for my SIL and that she felt hurt (although I’m truly failing to understand why),” the OP shared. “I also texted her a separate apology and explained that it was not our intent to encroach and just wanted to share the news with family and that it’s my belief that there’s room for happiness for everyone.”
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The brother and sister-in-law are still upset.
After the OP apologized via text to the SIL, she did not respond. Furthermore, the brother “doubled down” on his sentiments. He told his sister the “timing and location were hurtful and that we shouldn’t [have] planned around the wedding.”
So, were the OP and her fiancé in the wrong?
In the comments, Reddit users all agreed: They did nothing wrong.
As it turns out, the OP had no need to worry if she and her fiancé were at fault; Reddit firmly had their backs.
One commenter wrote that she was not the a–hole. “Your brother needs to calm down. The bride gets a day, her one wedding day. She does not get a location, a week, or anything else. She gets her wedding. That is all. You did not encroach.”
Another agreed, pointing out, “People need to get over themselves. I personally have never understood this wedding insecurity. Truly, what is the big deal if someone gets engaged if it’s not changing the tone of the celebration. But frankly everyone should be able to celebrate happiness together when they have it.”
Meanwhile, someone else had similar thoughts. “NTA! You didn’t do it at the wedding or during any after ceremony festivities. You extended your trip and it happened after when everyone had left,” the commenter wrote. “Your SIL and brother had their day. Life does not pause for everyone else after their SINGLE DAY! That’s the craziest reason to be pi–ed at someone.”
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