Some women dream of their engagement and wedding rings for years â but one woman had to watch out that her stepmother-in-law didnât snatch it behind her back. Apparently, it never occurred to the woman that her stepson might pop the question again with a bigger ring, so she put it on and gave it a try first.
To say that the Original Posterâs stepmother-in-law is a pain is putting it lightly.
As she explained in a post on r/JUSTNOMIL, her SMIL doesnât like her very much âand does not support our relationship from the beginning because she assumed we were having pre marital sex,â she wrote.
âShe in fact … did sit down with a grown ass man (my now husband) and asked if we were having sex,â she added. âBut that's not this story.â
The OP and her now husband were recently in town visiting when her SMIL took things just a smidge too far.
And by smidge, we mean a lot. A whole lot.
The recently married couple exchanged vows with a pair of âcheapo temporary ringsâ while the OP was waiting for her dream ring to be custom made.
âI had no idea when it was actually coming in the mail," she wrote, adding that her husband "wanted to surprise me with it and couldn't wait any longer. So he had it shipped to his parent's house.â
The ring arrived all right â and the OP wasnât the only one excited by the package.
In fact it was her SMIL who handed her the box â already opened.
âMy husband was FURIOUS … but stayed quiet,â she recalled. âI just wanted to cry and solemnly received the box and said 'it was okay' … because I wasn't even expecting the ring and took me a minute to process what actually happened.â
It wasnât just the ring that her SMIL ruined. The box was supposed to be special too.
Inside the box were sentimental messages that were supposed to be revealed before the OP got to her ring. The OP couldnât understand it â why would her SMIL open mail that wasnât for her?
âWell she says she saw the box with his name on it and assumed he bought her a gift,â she explained. âShe was so happy she ripped it open and was so amazed he bought her some fine jewelry (he has never bought her jewelry before) and put the ring on, only to disappointingly realize it didn't fit her so it must have been for me … his dreadful wife instead.â
As much as she hated to admit it â the OP is heartbroken that someone else got to wear her wedding ring before she did.
âAnd she cursed it or something,â she added. âSilly I know! But, that was my introduction to what life with her as a SMIL would be like.â
The comment section was pretty much unanimous â her SMIL ruined the ring.
"Wow she is bananas!" one commenter wrote. "Why would DH send her a gift with his name on it?! If it somehow had her name on it, I could see some initial confusion, but that's not the case."
"Well thatâs even worse that this is a stepmother because there was absolutely no reason for her to do that thinking he bought her jewelry. Itâs just a lie she wanted to ruin it for you go get the ring blessed or something take it to the jewelers and get it cleaned get her DNA off that ring," another person commented.
A third commenter put it this way: "Ugh. Despicable. I'm so sorry your special moment was missed due to such an unfeeling cow. I don't believe she thought it was for her, especially since she should have figured out it wasn't when she saw what it was."
Many people advised the OP to get the ring cleansed, and in the end, she took their advice to heart.
"This is exactly what I am doing based off all your sincere and hilarious recommendations," she wrote in an update to her post. "Cleansing the ring (no white sage) having the ring re-gifted to me and doing a photoshoot with my Dear Husband and my ring and lovingly gifting her the photos and the last step and my favorite … now calling her gollum!!!!"
We really think that last one will help.
