
Baby showers are intended to celebrate parents-to-be and equip them with everything they need for their babies. At these gatherings, certain etiquette missteps can feel like a big deal. Recently, a Reddit user vented about her baby shower being on the same day as her aunt’s birthday.
In early February 2025, the original poster, aka OP, took to the AITA subReddit to seek the opinion of people online. She is expecting her first child, and the night before her baby shower, her family informed her that her aunt from out of town would attend. Not only that, but they insisted on getting a birthday cake and have guests sing to the aunt at the baby shower.
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The Reddit user found out her baby shower was on her aunt’s birthday at the last minute.
On February 1, the OP explained the situation in a thread that divided Reddit users.
“My baby shower is today and I was just told last night my aunt will be visiting for a few days from a different state and today is her birthday,” she detailed. “Previous to last night I was unaware of her birthday or her even coming.”
Additionally, her family wanted guests to sing ‘Happy Birthday’ to the aunt at the shower.
The OP noted that her mother bought the aunt a cake, and her mother planned on having the baby shower guests sing to the aunt.
“My issue is that there will be multiple strangers who have no clue who she is that will be forced to awkwardly sing to her, and they couldn’t wait for another day,” she wrote. “She is going to be here for a few days so I’m confused why they couldn’t simply take her to dinner after the event or a different day.”
The family wouldn’t budge on the plan when she expressed concerns.

“When I expressed my concern my family implied I’m being selfish and then proceeded to say I have no choice as I didn’t pay for the shower,” the mom-to-be explained. “This is my first child and my family has made it clear this will be my one and only baby shower.”
Naturally, the OP wondered: Is she the jerk for asking that the baby shower be about her only?
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In the comments, plenty of Redditors thought the OP was being reasonable.
Plenty of Reddit users were on the OP’s side.
“[Not the a–hole]. I don’t care who is paying, this is YOUR baby shower; it’s a very special event to you and one that cannot be replicated,” one person wrote. “Your aunt will be there for multiple days for your family to celebrate her birthday, and she has a birthday every year so it’s not cool of your mom to want to celebrate your aunt’s birthday and take focus away during your special event. And honestly, If I were the aunt here, I’d be uncomfortable with it.”
Another Redditor agreed, declaring, “It’s your baby shower not her birthday party. They can always have a birthday party on another day or before or after the baby shower.”
Yet another pointed out, “Is your baby shower 24 hours? Why can’t they do the HBD after the guests leave? To me it’s classless to do it during the shower. NTA.”
Others insisted the OP was being selfish.
Interestingly, many others in the Reddit thread thought OP was definitely the a–hole in this situation.
One critic wrote, “YTA. The song takes 30 seconds and people who don’t want to sing don’t have to. Baby showers are already awkward for guests and I don’t think this will be the tipping point.”
Someone else echoed, “I can’t imagine craving attention so badly that I couldn’t tolerate spend[ing] 1.5 minutes of a multi-hour party acknowledging my loved one’s birthday.”
Meanwhile, one particularly passionate Reddit user pointed out, “Jesus Christ, it’s a baby shower…it’s not a freaking wedding. Just share the day, you talk like a birthday song is going to take up that much time.”
The commenter further scolded, “You’re about to be [a] parent, grow up. There’s more important things to gripe about than something this small. YTA.”
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