There are rules in fashion. And if there’s one color that has more rules than the others, it’s white. You have to be mindful not to wear it over problem areas. Don’t get it wet. You have to wear the right color undergarments or they’ll show through. There’s a white for summer and a different white for winter. But perhaps the biggest rule of all is that guests should almost never wear white to a wedding.
Avoid it at all costs unless you’re the bride or have been explicitly and specifically told to wear white by the bride herself. It seems like this should be understood. But inevitably, every wedding season a bride shares a story of how one of her guests did just that.
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One bride had the perfect wedding … except for the color of her niece's dress.
One bride shared her version of this tired tale on Reddit and asked if her response to the infraction made her an a–hole.
The bride and OP wrote that she had her dream wedding. She said that everything went off "without a hitch," except for one small thing: her 16-year-old niece’s dress. “It was a white, lacy knee length dress,” OP wrote. “She even wore lace elbow length gloves.”
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The bride couldn't stand seeing the teen standing in white next to her.
The day of the wedding, the OP didn’t say anything to the teenager or her parents (her brother and sister-in-law). Instead, she tried her best to stay in the moment and ignore the faux pas.
But when she got photos from her big day back from the photographer, the dress became a bigger issue than it had been before. “I couldn’t stand when I saw her in her white dress standing next to me,” the bride wrote.
The couple paid to have the dress digitally altered.
Seeing how upset his new wife was by the whole thing, the OP’s husband asked the photographer to edit the dress and turn it a light blue color. The couple paid extra for the service.
When the couple got their photos back, the OP was excited to share. Once they were online, her sister-in-law messaged her. She was angry that she allowed the photo of her daughter to be edited without permission.
The OP's SIL accused the bride of body-shaming her daughter.
But the SIL took it a step further. “She accused me of thinking my niece was ugly and of body shaming her,” the OP explained. But the couple did not alter their niece’s body or appearance in any way, just the color of her dress and gloves.
The bride said the whole thing has been stressing her out and she wonders, is she an a–hole.
We think the SIL has been made.
The good people of Reddit agreed that OP absolutely was not in the wrong.
“My spidey sense says the white dress was a deliberate affront,” one user suggested. “And when you finessed around it they got more combative and made up a grievance. NTA.”
Others affirmed that not only was the OP NTA, they commended her for the way she handled the whole thing. “Instead of getting mad and making a scene, you and your husband used logic (and technology) to fix the problem in the photos. Great thinking!”
We suspect the SIL has issues with the bride and weaponized her child in an attempt to express them. We find it interesting that the OP’s brother didn’t address the photo editing issue instead of the SIL. The OP might want to sit down with the both of them to get to the bottom of things, because this is bigger than a white dress.
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