New Mom Goes Viral in Brutally Honest Video Telling Women To ‘Dream Bigger’ Than Motherhood

Motherhood is a dream for a lot of women. And many will go to great lengths to make that dream a reality. But sometimes, you have to be careful what you wish for. A new mom on TikTok has gone viral for the brutally honest way she shared her feelings about motherhood.

While some people disagree with her take on the way being a mom changes you, many people are praising the new mom for her candor on the subject. It’s clear that she is trying to raise awareness about the struggles mothers face.

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The new mom had a confession to make.

New mom Sabrina, known on TikTok as @cootyqueen13, has a 9-month-old daughter named Harlie. One day, she sat down and decided to share a video, giving people a raw account of her feelings about motherhood.

“If you are debating having children, please stop and listen,” she implores viewers.

She then goes on to explain that since she was a child, her “dream” was to be a mom. As if on cue, her daughter can be heard fussing off camera. “I actually was given my dream,” she said, explaining that she married a guy who was “everything I ever put on paper,” and had the one baby girl she wanted.

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♬ original sound – Sabrina Marie 💗

She has realized that dreams aren’t always the same as reality.

“God, I regret making being a mom my dream, and I wish that I did not have that as a dream. I have been severely disappointed with the dream,” she confessed. While she loves her daughter “more than anything on this planet,” the new mom has come to a stark realization.

“I would do it all over again for her, a million times over,” she said. “But what also is a fact at the same time is I was dreaming of a life that I had no idea — no idea what it was about. It’s not just a few moments of like, ‘No, don’t do that,’ a few smelly diapers, and you’re just gonna have this happy-go-lucky f—ing family. No, that’s not reality. That’s not real life,” she admitted.

Sabrina shared that she is a stay-at-home mom, and while she’s grateful for the opportunity, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. “It’s temporary. It’s temporary. Thank God. But being a mother is the most draining experience of your life,” the new mom said bluntly.

She laid out some harsh truths about new motherhood.

“It changes every single person around you, every single person around you, every single friend, every family member, the relationship with your husband, the relationship with yourself,” she began. “I am so fat I don’t recognize myself at all. I was so much more fit before I had her; I was geared the f— in. None of my clothes fit me.”

“I can’t take a s— by myself. I can’t eat when I want to. I can’t go out and just get a Dunkin’ whenever I want to. I can’t film a video whenever I want to. I can’t scream whenever I want to. I can’t go to dinner whenever I want to.”

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Being a new mom has made her reassess her life.

She breaks things down in a way that not many moms do. “I wish I got it earlier. I wish I had the click earlier that this isn’t a life path that I have to take as a woman,” she confessed.

“If you are childfree, sometimes all you have to know is that you would be a good mother. I am trying to save you. Dream bigger. Dream bigger. Do not try to make the family that you’ve always wanted. Don’t even do it. Don’t do it. Go travel, b—-. Go be hot. Go create your family with friends and experiences and yourself and your spirituality and nature,” she implored viewers.

Her level of honesty might come off as shocking.

The new mom really isn’t afraid to go there, saying “It is not worth it. It is not worth it. Do not have children.”

“I am still in the trenches, in the f—ing mental trenches, OK? The rage I have inside of me, the depression and the wanting to I have inside of me, even with a supportive partner, even with a person that’s your help, your village, sometimes it doesn’t matter,” she admits.

She then goes on to call a baby a “parasite,” saying that they will “suck every f—ing thing of your energy, but they will also suck every ounce of your soul from your body.”

Finally, she admits that while she very much loves her daughter, she “wouldn’t ever do it again for a nonexistent child.”

“I waited, I did everything right, and it’s still the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and it still f—ing sucks. So don’t do it, especially with the climate right now in the world, do not do it.”

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People were really impressed by her candor.

“I really respect this level of honesty,” one person wrote.

“She is not negative she’s in the reality,” another said.

“I’m childfree, honestly you are so real for this because nobody explains how exhausting it actually is to be in servitude to your kids day in day out with no breaks!,” someone wrote. “You lose yourself completely.”

“So well said!” another person commented. “It’s so hard to vocalize this without sounding ungrateful.”

Another person chimed in with a really important message for the new mom: “Postpartum depression is no joke. You will be ok. She will become more and more independent and it’ll be easier. You got this. I bet you’re a fantastic mom.”