Becoming a mother for the first time is an exciting milestone for many women. But maintaining a stress-free pregnancy can be difficult. One woman who says her in-laws are trying to pressure her and her husband into visiting them after moving several hours away is having trouble with exactly that.
The woman, who is currently eight months pregnant, sought advice from users on the "Am I the A–hole" Reddit forum, hoping to find a solution to the ongoing situation. In the forum, she explained that her first pregnancy hasn't been easy because her husband works long hours at a hospital.
The in-laws moved out of state.
The mom-to-be explained that her in-laws had recently moved out of state and wanted all of their children to make a seven-hour trip to visit them. But the original poster said her husband's demanding work schedule made it difficult for them to see his parents in their new home.
"In two weeks all his siblings are driving down there to visit and want us to join. I will be 8 1/2 months at that point there is no chance I’m sitting in a car for 7 hours," the OP explained. "They want my husband to come and leave me alone and I really don’t want him to go."
The OP said she did not want to be alone without her husband around to help her in case of an emergency. "I could go at any time and I don’t want to be here alone with him a 7 hour drive away. I’ve never given birth before and I’m scared. [What] if something goes wrong and he is not here," she wrote.
Her husband told his parents they couldn't visit.
Her husband explained the situation to his parents, and the woman said his mother called him in tears and one of his siblings told him he was "awful" for choosing not to take the trip.
She then said that her mother-in-law called her as well. She "pretty much told me I’m awful and I can just suck it up and take the car ride since I’m too much of a bitch to let him go without me. I just hung up," the woman recalled.
The upset mom-to-be ended the post by stating that she "feels so bad" about the situation and wants her "baby coming into this world to be happy but now I feel like this is going to ruin it."
Reddit users shared their thoughts and offered advice to the woman.
One user pointed out that she would run the risk of having the baby whether she stayed at home or went on the trip.
"You’re far along in the pregnancy, depending on the choice you make, you always have that risk of going into labor," the user said.
The woman said she suspects her in-laws want her to give birth where they live.
The woman responded in the post, stating her suspicions that her in-laws may have plans for her to give birth on the trip so she and her husband can't return home right away.
"Your inlaws can suck a lemon," one user commented. "If they really wanted a family reunion, they should have asked for dates that worked for everyone. I would hang up if anyone calls you to harrass you."
"You could very possibly go into labor during that 7hour car ride," noted another user. "Not even no, but hell no. Tell them this Internet stranger is vetoing their selfishness. Holy hell. No. And to require him going without you? Are they nuts???"
Despite the distressing situation, most Reddit users advised the woman to do what's best for her and her baby, regardless of what her in-laws think.
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