Sometimes it’s hard to make decisions as a couple, but it can be even harder to make the tough calls when you’re no longer together. For example, one Redditor and her ex-husband are completely at odds while trying to co-parent after a doctor recommended their preschooler start wearing glasses. The Redditor is more than ready to get her son a pair of brand new specs — but her ex thinks that would be a big mistake.
The mom's son recently underwent a vision assessment at the hospital.
It was there that a doctor told her the preschooler had astigmatism and needed glasses to fix his vision, she explained in a post on Reddit's Am I the A–hole forum.
He also needed an eye patch to help strengthen the weaker eye.
“This is to curb the risk of amblyopia, or ‘lazy eye.’” she explained.
To the mom, it should have been simple.
Doctor prescribes glasses and an eye patch, mom buys glasses and an eye patch, and son gets to see properly. But of course, now her ex has some thoughts.
“My ex-husband is in disagreement with this diagnosis and the steps that I have taken in accordance with what the doctor prescribed,” the mom wrote. “He did not raise this when I informed him days ago.”
According to her ex, “our son is too young for glasses and we should wait a year or two.”
“He also told me that I was stupid for believing the doctor,” she added.
But the mom knows that their doctor isn’t steering them wrong. After all, “I was present at the assessment and he wasn’t.”
Now she wonders if she's in the wrong “for going ahead and deciding to get my son glasses.”
Most people thought her ex was the one who needed glasses — because he couldn’t see the truth.
“[Not the A–hole]. Anti-glassers is a new one on me," one commenter joked.
"OP you are doing great thing for your son," someone else wrote. "I am 14 and have a lazy eye and it's best to start when the kid I young. I still have a lazy eye and it will keep getting worse if you don't do what the doctor has prescribed."
A third commenter had this to say: "This is bizarre and ridiculous. Eyes don't improve because you don't wear glasses. If you wait a year or two, he's just going to be miserable and struggle in school and drawing/sports for a year or two, because he can't see s–t."
In the end, the mom believes this whole thing isn’t really about her son needing glasses.
She thought her ex was just salty for being left out of the “decision making” process and is “bitter” about it.
“That’s my take, though,” she wrote in one of the comments.
“Personally, I don’t see the point of sitting down to make a decision together on whether our son needs glasses when he clearly does,” she added. “If he had needed refractive surgery, I recognised that would definitely be the A–hole if I made that decision without him.”
That's why she’s thinking it might be better to let her ex have a little bit of control to get him off her back.
“I’m going to suggest to him to personally take our son to a different ophthalmologist for a second opinion if he keeps arguing with me about this,” she wrote.
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