Marriage problems run the gamut, but truly, there are some situations you'd think were better suited for a soap opera than real life. The drama some couples find themselves is can be astounding, and one mom on Reddit just shared her short but wild tale that she genuinely has no idea what to do about.
The mom and wife began by giving a little history and situational context for readers.
"My husband and I have been married for 7 years… happily I thought," she wrote. "We have two girls 5,4 and two boys 2 and unborn. He’s due any day. I lost my job back in March due to the pandemic and it’s been so nice being a stay at home mom to the kids."
Out of seemingly nowhere, the mom was hit with some horrible news.
"Our 4th child is due any day now and about two days ago I received a bombshell … my husband had an affair," she reported, but the drama didn't end there.
"It broke me to the core. He is the love of my life, then he hit me with the second part of the news they had a baby about a month ago he’s about two months early and in intensive care and his mother is an addict and was arrested and they want custody to go to my husband."
What's worse, he blames her for his indiscretions.
"He told me I let myself go all these months and that it was a moment of weakness," she wrote. "He’s telling me that we could still be a happy family and that his baby needs a father."
The truth is, the mom wants nothing to do with this entire situation — including his baby.
"His side of the family is calling me a monster for turning away a child in need," she added. "I feel like I’m living a nightmare."
She's wondering if she's totally wrong for wanting nothing to do wit his child, and turned to Reddit for some unbiased advice.
No one blamed her for wanting nothing to do with the situation, and offered her their two cents on how to handle it.
"[I]t's a huge red flag that he is essentially blaming her for 'letting herself go,'" wrote one reader. "Um, she's pregnant and if this baby is a couple months early he knocked up the side piece just 2 months in to his wife's pregnancy. I have an ex husband who always blamed me for his cheating. It took me 13 years and a whole lot of strength to leave that abusive relationship.
"That poor baby is also a victim in his mess but that doesn't mean you have to accept taking responsibility for said child," the person continued. "Just please don't let your children grow up treating their half sibling like crap because of their father's bad behaviour."
Another person put it rather simply: "Either seek marriage counseling or file for divorce. Your husband doesn't get to use his love child to guilt you into accepting his philandering."
We hope this mama can find solace in whatever decision she makes.
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