My MIL Tried To Convince My Husband Our Son Isn’t His & Now I Want To Cut Her Off

The dynamic between a mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law can be complicated. Tensions can arise and quickly turn into arguments, leading to hurt feelings and burned bridges. That appears to be the case for one mom in an online forum who is considering going no-contact with her mother-in-law. Commenters made an extremely valid point in their responses.

Recently, an anonymous married mom took to a Reddit AITA Facebook group to air out her MIL grievances. This wasn't a simple disagreement, however. Evidently, the MIL suggested that her son wasn't the biological father of her eldest child, consequently wreaking havoc on her marriage.

A mom recently asked, 'AITA for wanting to cut off my mother in law?'

AITA Reddit/Facebook

"[Am I the A–hole] for wanting to cut off my mother in law?" the mom asked before beginning a lengthy explanation of her situation in a post to a Reddit AITA Facebook group.

"My husband mentioned when very drunk last week (has a drinking problem) that my mil had said our eldest son is not his but his cousins," she explained. "He has given some credence to this as he remembers coming home from work 1 day while we were staying at his parents freshly married and I was alone with his cousin. I have been alone with several other people in the same room through that time just chatting, video games etc till he came home. I know who my child's father is and it's my husband as I haven slept with anyone else since I met him."

Her husband demanded a paternity test.

The OP explained that her husband's demand, made while he was drunk, "outraged and offended" her.

"I am so hurt and sad that he thinks so little of me that he thinks I would do this and lie all these years," she shared. "We argued all of last week ruining our daughters birthday it was a big one. He drank almost all the time name calling, accusations etc keeps asking why his mum would say this but yet he won't ask her and I don't know why?"

As of writing, they were still awaiting the result of the test, although the OP is 100% positive her husband is the father.

But now, he's angry at her for actually getting a paternity test.

Evidently, the husband is now mad at the OP for getting the test and has accused her of "causing the drama over this." He "doesn't seem to understand how angry I am with his mum for this out of nowhere and I can't speak to her about it as his dad is recovering from surgery and I don't want to upset that," she wrote.

According to the OP, her MIL won't speak to her about the situation, but her husband is still urging her to speak with his mother despite not having done anything wrong.

Their relationship has suffered greatly.

The mom confessed that she is "heartbroken over this," noting that she has no family support, just her friends. Additionally, her husband has been "going about his life like nothing is going on" and "drinking too much and has been getting into trouble with the police."

The OP also mentioned her husband has been drunk driving and "being horrible and crass to everyone in the house."

Folks on Reddit weighed in, making a valid observation.

AITA Reddit/Facebook

So, is this mom a jerk for wanting to go no-contact with her MIL? As plenty of commenters pointed out, her husband seems to be the issue in this situation.

One Facebook commenter wrote, "It sounds like you’ve grown apart and now it’s on the downward turn. It sounds like his drinking is a massive part of the problem too, which if he doesn’t address it, will progressively get worse."

"If it was me…. After the test come back and proves his is the father I would quit having anything to do with him and his mother," someone else wrote. "Go completely no contact, act as if they are not in the room, sleep on the couch if I had to and find a way to get out as soon as I can."

"You are in an abusive relationship," someone else pointed out. "1. He doesn't trust you. 2. He doesn't want to discuss any opinion but his own or his mothers. 3. He verbally abuses you & your kids when drunk. 4. How long before he raises his hand to you or your kids.

"Know your worth," the person added. "When the paternity results come back hand him divorce papers & get some peace in your life."