We don’t know about you, but we are always down for a good old debate over who’s in the wrong. And there is no better place to get all up in someone’s business than TikTok, where the drama abounds and no one keeps their opinions to themselves.
Danica Moore came up on our For Your Page recently with bold text that reads, “My Kid and I were the ONLY wedding guests not served a meal. No gift!” We stopped to watch and were ready for all the tea.
Moore explained that she is a vegan. After discussing her food restrictions with the wedding planner, she assumed everything would be fine and that she would have a meal at the reception. That’s not exactly what happened, and Moore’s story went viral. People are infuriated but not with the wedding coordinator; they think Moore was a “guestzilla.”
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There was actually a lot more to the story than what the video depicts.
Moore, whose podcast is called I’m Not Gonna Be Quiet, posted on her TikTok page, @ingbq, and explained that she had spoken to the wedding coordinator about being vegan. Moore told her to just pick up some Chinese food at a restaurant in the area.
The coordinator allegedly said she would do that but called Moore a couple of hours before the wedding and asked where she was supposed to get the food. She then called again and asked Moore to pick up the food herself.
“I will not. No I will not,” Moore says in the video. “Why would I go do that? That doesn’t even make sense to me. Like, I’m here to see some nuptials, not be your assistant.”
She refused to pick up the food that was ordered for her and then made a bold decision.
Moore explained that she feels like a wedding gift serves two purposes: 1. It celebrates the couple and congratulates them, and 2. It helps offset the costs of the party. Because she couldn’t enjoy a meal, she didn’t think she needed to give a gift.
“I feel some kind of way. If I didn’t get any return on my gift, like I didn’t get food, period. So what do you do? Do you still give a gift?” she said.
TikTokers felt some kind of way too ...
People thought she was being totally unreasonable.
One person wrote, “Wait you asked for Chinese take out on someone’s wedding day??? That is the strangest thing I’ve ever heard.”
Commenters didn’t understand why she didn’t bring her own food. “You’re a lot. Pack a lunch next time,” one person suggested.
As a wedding professional, this person was stunned: “This is crazy, that coordinator and the bride had 7000 things going on those two days before the wedding and still they tried to accommodate you and work with you.”
“This is selfish AF… you’re not gonna give a gift because you have dietary restrictions & the COORDINATOR didn’t get your Food?” someone else wrote. “Weird energy, the return was being there to see their love not Food .”
Moore clapped back: “I can see how you might see it as such. Petty even. Buuuuuttttt… my gift was our attendance. I spent $4-$500 to get there, and drove 5 hours. I think that’ll be their gift.”
The update was even more shocking.
Moore seemed surprised that her video, with 1.5 million views, was met with such backlash. So she gave us part two and a few more details. And friends, it’s a lot.
Not only was the wedding Moore attending her brother’s, but also her sister was the coordinator. And she believed because they knew her vegan diet, it should have been much easier for them to accommodate and they should have simply complied.
TikTokers hated that response.
One person wrote, “This makes it weirder, for my siblings WEDDING DAY I’d do literally anything they asked me to.”
So many people agreed.
“This is WORSE. All of your siblings put work into this wedding & had a million things on their to do list FOR EVERYONE ELSE but you couldn’t even take care of yourself & pick up your own Food???” one person commented.
“This makes it SO MUCH worse! congratulations on making their day about you,” another critic commented.
Moore seemed unfazed.
Some called her delusional for her response to the whole situation, but she really didn’t care.
“I don’t want to get too deep, but, like, some of ya’ll’s responses are really rooted in patriarchy and colonialism, so let’s like maybe explore that, right? I’m not the caretaker for my brother. I’m not the caretaker for anyone else. Asking me to do extra labor is absurd when I am a guest, indeed,” she explained in her response video.
But people weren’t buying it and thought Moore was definitely the problem.
A TikToker wrote, “WoW! U ask for feedback & when society holds a mirror to ur face to show u who u truly are u attack Yeah, there’s definitely some ‘undiagnosed issues’ (hint) The call is coming from inside the house.”
