It’s pretty clear that Kody Brown’s failed relationships have impacted his perception of marriage. On the Sunday, April 27 episode of Sister Wives, Kody Brown, who once had four wives, compared marriage to a cult. But even the Sister Wives star himself admitted that he’s a bit “bitter.”
Kody was a polygamist, but ultimately that didn’t work out for him. When three of his wives, Christine, Janelle, and Meri, left him, he actually considered leaving his fourth wife, Robyn, as well, he admitted on the recent episode. Now that some time has passed, he has reflected on what went wrong, and shared his interesting views on marriage.
When Kody ‘failed at’ plural marriage, he was ready to give up completely.
Kody has said that he’s not interested in plural marriage anymore. But at one point, he didn’t seem particularly interested in monogamy either, and considered leaving his wife Robyn. “Because I’ve been in plural marriage for so long and it was a sole focus of marriage for me, when we failed at it, I was sabotaging myself,” he admitted on the recent episode, per InTouch. “There were days unfair to Robyn that I thought about just walking away from our relationship, too.”
In retrospect, Kody said he considered leaving Robyn because he was “so broken” and “self-destructive” after his plural marriage failed.
He compared marriage to a cult.
Kody, who is a member of the Apostolic United Brethren, said that his “church isn’t a cult.” Marriage, however, is a different story entirely — and basically a cult, he suggested. Unlike his church, which he said is “hard to get into and easy to get out of,” marriage “is easy to get into and it is hard to get out of.” He clarified that he didn’t “want to disparage marriage” though.
Kody said he’s not interested in plural marriage.
Clearly, he doesn’t have the most optimistic outlook on marriage as a whole. His views on plural marriage have shifted dramatically. He previously said, “Love should be multiplied, not divided.” But now, he feels like he’s been “slapped by polygamy.”
“It’s hard not to be bitter about the fact that I bought off on it and did it because in the end, in the last moments of it, it felt terrible,” he said. “I’m like, literally bitter sometimes.”
On the show, Robyn asked him if he missed plural marriage. But he said he’s “not in that space” anymore.
“I don’t want to be flippant with my answer because we were devoted to this, but I’m not interested in plural marriage anymore,” Kody said. “I don’t want to pursue another woman because I don’t want that headache, the questions, the struggles, the wonder about trust. I’m not in that space.”
He seems to regret how he dealt with things.
Reflecting on how he acted after the plural marriage fell apart, Kody seemed to recognize that he didn’t handle it very well. He admitted that his behavior affected his wives, too. “All that s— I said about not loving my wives and stuff, my exes, was just like, me trying to dial in how I felt about it,” he admitted.
He now understands that he was lying to himself as a coping mechanism. “I was like, ‘Oh yeah, I’m not affected by this. Those mean women, they’re gone. I never loved them anyway.’ I mean, this is really the crap I was spewing because that was [the] only defense I had,” Kody acknowledged. “Divorce just does that to you.”
Kody also apologized to Robyn for “the dark space I went through and how it harmed you because it wasn’t fair to you.”
