My Sister Didn’t Adhere To My Wedding’s Strict Dress Code So I Kicked Her Out

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We've all heard about bridezillas who make their weddings miserable for everyone involved. But have you ever heard of a guest ruining the fun for the bride? A 25-year-old woman recently got married, and her younger sister wouldn't abide by the couple's chosen color theme for the wedding. The bride warned her that she'd get the boot if she didn't show up in the proper attire.

On the wedding day, the sister came wearing what she wanted, which was not to the bride's specifications. The bride told her to leave, but the whole family was upset. Is she a jerk, or is her sister to blame?

The women's backstory is sticky.

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The bride posted in Reddit's AITA forum to talk about her sister, Jen. Jen was adopted when she was 7, and OP was 9. The girls got along fine, and OP did everything she could to make Jen feel happy and comfortable, and loved. But as they grew older, it seemed the whole world revolved around Jen.

"If she didn't get what she wanted, she threw a tantrum. I still felt loved and cared for by my parents–they drove me to practices, bought me things, cooked meals for me, spent quality time and gave me advice, but I was always second to Jen," OP wrote.

When it was time for her wedding, OP was calling the shots.

Now that the sisters are adults, OP feels like she can start making some rules, particularly regarding her wedding. The couple wanted the groom's guests to wear blue and the bride's to wear yellow. Mutual friends could wear green, but that was it. Jen doesn't like yellow and told OP it washed her out. She warned her that she'd be asked to leave if she showed up at the wedding in anything but yellow. No surprise, she came in a purple dress.

"They said it was cruel of me to kick my sister out over something so trivial. I told them this was MY wedding that I threw without their support, so I can kick out whoever I want to. Kip came rushing to defend me and even told my parents they should be ashamed of how they treated me, but over the past few days, a lot of people I've talked to–grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, have been mixed. Some say they wouldn't have even invited Jen if they were me, while others think I should have let it slide. AITA?" the OP asked.

Redditors went all in on this one.

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Some firmly believed that OP was out of line. Like this person who wrote: "YTA. You didn't want wedding guests, you wanted wedding extras and decorations. You can dictate what the wedding party wears, but trying to control guests is a bit much."

"YTA – Breaking a color scheme isn't the crime you think it is," someone else commented.

But others thought Jen was wrong.

At least one person totally felt that Jen dressed in purple on purpose.

Someone wrote: "I have been to weddings where the bride and groom wanted a color scheme. To date I have not known of anyone who had such a problem that they showed up in a different color just for spite. Because make no mistake about it, that is exactly why your sister showed up in purple, pure spite. If the color yellow was really the problem, she could have asked to wear blue. Instead, she showed up in purple with the express intention of upstaging the bride and groom and causing a scene, knowing all the time that your parents would back her up."

"I'm not a fan of overly themed weddings with 'what to wear' instructions, but on the other hand I have heard way worse," another Redditor commented. "There are eighty-billion shades of yellow and blue, so its no big deal. And really, if anyone had a serious objection to it, they just politely could bow out of it. That said, what your sister did was an obvious play at upstaging you, just like she always has done."

The situation wasn't black and white.

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Or yellow and purple, that is. Redditors felt like Jen and OP need to mend their relationship and figure out the real problem. And as this person wrote, it's not about dresses.

"ESH," they pointed out. "If she truly hated yellow, you could have given her the option of one of the other colours, since there were three. She then wouldn't have broken the aesthetic. The very fact that you didn't even give this option tells me that you are far more resentful than you are letting on, and that there are likely missing reasons in your post. Most people would be more concerned about having their loved ones present on their day."