A wedding guest list can be tricky. Especially if there are people within the inner circle who just don’t get along. But the internet really had to question one bride-to-be’s sanity when she decided to take her creepy future brother-in-law’s side — over her sister’s — and disinvite her to the wedding.
The bride-to-be shared her dilemma on a Reddit forum.
She was starting to wonder if perhaps she might have misjudged the situation. She and her fiancé, B, are getting married “whenever things get less hectic,” she explained in her post in the Am I the A–hole forum on Reddit.
“We have everything planned out including who’s coming which has been very controversial.”
The problem is that her sister, L, used to date B’s older brother, M.
Things did NOT end well between the two. M cheated on L and then “became a bit of a stalker.”
That might have been putting it lightly because eventually L “got a restraining order against him,” the future bride shared.
The bride was angry at M but it didn’t stop her from falling in love with his brother.
The two met in college, fell in love, and now they’re trying to knuckle down and finalize their guest list. Her fiancé is determined to have his brother there.
“B said it’s because he’s very close with M and also M saved his life,” she explained. “B wants M to be there to see him progress even further in life.”
Her fiancé even started to tear up as he made his case and “said he’s sorry but he’s choosing M over L.”
The bride is “very close” with her sister, but her feeling was that B is her future husband and “he kind of takes priority.”
“I told L the bad news (thinking she would understand because she’s still going dress shopping with me) and she said I was no longer welcome in her home or to see my niece,” she wrote.
Was she really so wrong?
Overwhelmingly, the answer was yes.
“You’re choosing your sister’s adulterous ex/stalker over her, who has done nothing wrong except date the wrong guy. She shouldn’t be punished because M— doesn’t know how to behave himself,” one commenter wrote in. “Why isn’t your fiancé worried about starting the marriage off on a bad note with you? You, B—, and M— are all the a–holes.”
“Right the fiancé clearly does not care that his stalker brother caused his future wife’s sister a lot of stress and trauma,” someone else agreed. “Red flags all around.”
A third commenter put it this way:
“Restraining orders aren’t given lightly. This isn’t just the wedding. This is you choosing M— every time from here on out. A family who cheated on, stalked and terrorized your sister and whose own family condones it. I see your sister going NC for good now, and I don’t blame her.”
A few people thought the bride had every right to have her sister there.
“Your husband is allowed to want his brother there and invite him,” person commented. “Your sister likely wouldn’t have come if he was there but you should have talked to her about it first. Tell her that M— will be invited to the wedding and if she was willing to go and be civil it was her choice but you’re not ta for following your husbands wishes. You should have handled the situation differently though.”
“[Not the A–hole] — sometimes you have to do choices you don't like,” another person added. “M is still B’s brother.”
“Neither Brother M nor Sister L should attend,” a third commenter wrote. “It’s not fair to pick one sibling over the other.”
In the end, it seemed the bride had taken note of some of the negative comments on her story. She updated her post and in all caps shared, “OKAY YES I GET IT KNOW I’M THE AH IM GOING TO TALK TO B— TOMORROW ABOUT THIS.”
We hope her sister will be happy that she changed her tune.
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