The work of labor and childbirth is intense. It can be difficult for the mother both physically and mentally. She will be exhausted by the end, even with the most incredible support system. Without the support she needs from her partner, it can be downright miserable.
One mom was so infuriated with her husband's selfishness and unsupportive behavior in the delivery room that she kicked him out. Now he's telling her that she ruined his special moment. She took to Reddit with her story, and well, the public disagrees and thinks he ruined the moment all on his own.
The husband wanted to be on a boys' weekend.
In Reddit's AITA forum, the mom explained that her husband was totally out of line with his behavior in the delivery room. She decided to deliver her baby without the aid of an epidural — a monumental feat — but he didn't seem to even notice. And her labor wasn't short – it took 26 hours.
Instead, he was on the phone with his "bros" who were on a boys' weekend without him. It was a weekend he had initially planned to attend until she asked him not to. Even when she pleaded with him to be quiet on the phone, he'd agree with her momentarily and then get right back to talking with his friends.
He apologized to his friends for her behavior.
Instead of being a nurturing husband and understanding that his wife needed peace, he sided with his "bros." He apologized to them because his wife was "being a nag." Reddit users weren't having it.
"If he has a problem with the situation, you could ask him what he was feeling the last time he had a new person escaping from his vagina so you can compare notes and come up with a compromise," one blunt comment read.
Then his mother called.
His mother soon came in on FaceTime, and he put the phone in his wife's face. She wanted to labor and endure her pain quietly but instead had to listen to her MIL talk about her birthing experience and the doctor flirting with her.
"I was holding back everything inside me to not say something as I didnt want to disrespect my mother in law but at the same time she sometimes just makes the stupidest comments at the worst times and at this moment I could not stand talking to her," she wrote in her post.
That was the end. The laboring mom called for a nurse to get her husband out of the room because she was upset. The nurse asked him to leave, and she delivered the baby solo.
Her husband missed the birth of his daughter.
He got upset that they asked him to leave the room, so he left the hospital altogether and missed the baby's birth. He turned the whole situation on his wife and blamed her for ruining his bonding moment with the infant. His mother even visited and told the new mom that she was a terrible wife for making him leave.
The exhausted mom just wanted her experience to be pleasant, and he was playing the victim. "When I got home he kept on bringing up how I ruined a moment of bonding with his daughter and how he could never forgive me for that," she wrote in her post.
People in the AITA forum thinks he is the one who's the jerk.
Reddit users agreed that the new mom was not the one being the a–hole and that the husband caused his trouble and shouldn't have acted like a child.
"I read that he was only asked to leave the room, not the hospital, him leaving the hospital is on him," one comment read. "I wouldn't be surprised when OP was in bearing down stage the nurses did try to find him."
The comment about his wife being a nag really set people off.
Name-calling is never the way to go, but when your wife is in labor? Yeah, just no. People think he was a jerk from the very beginning.
"He called her a nag, to his friends, while she was in labour. I feel like everything else pales compared to that," one person commented. "He doesn't respect her or their child. I feel so bad for OP."
Another person agreed, writing, "He called her a NAG for wanting him to be there so clearly it wasn't that important to him."
"He apologize to them blaming it on me being a nag. You missed this. Anyone who calls a woman in labor a nag or nagging is 100% an a–hole," commented someone else.
People want her to leave him and start over.
Commenters agreed that this woman deserves better and she should not stay in a toxic relationship with this man.
"I've never been pregnant.. I've left people for less…. please leave this man," one person advised. "He does not know how to prioritize you, or the child you share with him, and if he doesn't know how get his act together on the day of your child's birth, it will never get better."
"Reconsider your marriage with this man," someone else wrote. "I don't think anybody who's excited or happy about being a father would be so petty as to not even see his child for being p—ed off. It's you who's suffering in there and you have the right to some peace while you BIRTH A WHOLE HUMAN BEING."
Others are looking out for the well-being of her daughter.
As one person shared, "All this guy is gonna do is make your daughter's life hard and stressful. She maybe even be traumatised because of him and his actions. He's just going to be a bad figure in her life. Remove him, both for you and for your child."
"Get a better husband. And a better father for your baby, because this guy is not it," another person wrote. "Don’t let a man treat you like that, and don’t let your girl grow up thinking this sort of bullshit behaviour is normal. You deserve better."
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