Ah, the good old days. We hear about the days of yore from our parents and grandparents and how they were totally different people before we knew them. Sometimes their stories can be pretty darn entertaining, especially if they give insight into the people we just can't believe they actually were.
Sometimes those people were partiers and may have dabbled in a thing or two. Even though those days may be way behind them now, they might still want to take a step back in time here and there. A man has some pretty cool in-laws who were into music way back when and loved music festivals like Lollapalooza before it got "too commercial." They sound like cool folks.
Well, being the cool son-in-law that he is, he let his in-laws imbibe in some of his "special fudge" during a recent stay, and against his express warning, they went a bit overboard, and it basically ruined their weekend. His wife is totally upset with him and says it's his fault for blowing up the plans. Does it make him an a–hole that these grown adults didn't listen to him? He asked Reddit's AITA Forum for advice.
More from CafeMom: Ohio Mom Facing Child Endangerment Charges After Her 1-Year-Old Son Overdosed on Marijuana
He warned them that his fudge was special.
The original poster's father-in-law's biggest regret is not seeing Nirvana in concert because he didn't realize who they were. This guy could write a book, but he must also put on his listening ears. OP invited him to try some edibles but told him to be careful. He told them to try a "quarter piece." That is what his wife usually takes. It allows her to have some fun but be able to function the next day.
"My in-laws decided they were old school cool and I was shining them on," he wrote. "They each took a full piece. That was Friday night. They didn't move from the couch until Saturday afternoon."
The fantastic fudge sidelined the whole weekend.
According to OP, his wife is blaming him that the plans she had with her parents blew up. He doesn't quite see how that is his fault if they ignored his warnings.
"My wife is upset with me and so are my in-laws. They ended up staying until Sunday when they felt normal. I tried to explain that the cannabis I grow is stronger than whatever they are used to from the 90s but I'm still in trouble," he explained. But is he responsible?
Make bad choices, bad things happen.
That is a hallmark in teaching children about consequences, but it looks like these adults didn't remember that lesson when they went ham on that candy. Apparently, everyone should have realized that edibles and smoking weed are not the same things.
"I mean, isn't it common knowledge by now that you don't take an entire edible?" one commenter wondered. "The standup comedian Doug Benson, probably one of the most experienced pot users alive, has a bit about that — if they say take a half, take a quarter; if they say take a quarter, take an eighth; etc. etc. etc. Not your fault they apparently wanted to show what all-world potheads they were and took 4x your recommendation. You're NTA, and your wife needs to lay off."
Some warned they should have listened to the chef.
"Literally tho… he's the one who made the 'special' fudge THEREFORE any information he had given and does give regarding the treats SHOULD BE taken seriously lol who else would know better than the one who made it in the first place," someone wrote.
Again, grown adults!
"If you told them how strong they were and they still ate as much as they did, NTA," another comment reads. "That's how edibles work, you can't control their highs."
"Certain older people, who have narcissistic tendencies, want to get into pissing contests with their kids about how much cooler and tougher they were," someone pointed out. "They lost the pissing contest." Facts.
Why wasn't OP's wife more involved?
Some people felt OP would be in trouble no matter what. He gave them too much fudge, and he made them sick. If he didn't give them any, he was a jerk. Who wins?
"NTA – you told them it was strong and recommended 1/4 of what they ate," a Redditor commented. "Not your fault or your problem. We're you supposed to take it away from them? Then your wife would have been mad about that."
"What were you supposed to do?" another person asked. "Snatch it out of their hands? Argue with them over it? If you did either of those two, everyone would think you're the AH for doing that."
One Redditor told OP precisely what to do. "Tell your wife she is an a–hole for not putting her parents in their place," the commenter advised.
More from CafeMom: Parents Are Warned To Look Out for 'Cannabis Candy' on Halloween but Many Are Skeptical
Nope, OP, this is not your problem.
Sure, the in-laws wanted to act a little cool, but that is on them. OP didn't force anyone or overserve them. Quite the contrary, you tried to control the situation, and they overindulged. That is no one's fault but their own.
Maybe next time they sit down with their Kurt Cobain CD, they'll remember that kids aren't always so stupid and sometimes, it pays to listen to the younger ones.
