Couples fight about all kinds of things. But sometimes, it’s hard to tell if you’ve taken the fight too far. A woman on Reddit is worried that she may have gone too far when he called her boyfriend out for saying that he doesn’t find a pregnant belly to be attractive. Naturally, it brought up some concerns for the woman.
In her mind, his words reflect his feelings on pregnant bodies. And since they have discussed having children in the future, the woman is worried. However, her boyfriend is now trying to make it seem that her reaction is unnecessary.
The couple has been together for several years, but they’re having troubles.
The woman’s post in the Two Hot Takes forum has been deleted, but screenshots are forever. The 24-year-old explained that she and her 27-year-old boyfriend have been dating for several years.
She said that lately they have been going “through it” in their personal lives, and that drama is seeping into their relationship. According to her, the “biggest issue” is the way they communicate. He has a history of telling her that she’s overreacting to situations. It makes her feel less supported in their relationship.
Things came to a head after seeing a pregnant woman’s body.
After a “stressful day,” the woman and her boyfriend were discussing a mutual friend who is pregnant. The woman is “very ready to pop,” according to the original poster. While she and her boyfriend were talking, she joked that someone should “get that baby out of her.” She may have been joking, but she was shocked by her boyfriend’s response.
“That s— is disgusting,” he said. The woman was “very enraged,” and called him on what he said, calling him “rude and disrespectful.”
“It also makes me feel like he will one day see me as ‘disgusting’ when I am ready to give birth,” she continued.
He immediately got ‘defensive.’
The woman was shocked that her boyfriend didn’t automatically apologize to her for his comments. Instead, he made her “feel like I was the crazy one for acting how I did.”
The couple had plans the next day, but the woman canceled, saying she didn’t want to talk to her boyfriend. He then gave a “crappy” apology before saying he’ll “never say anything ever again.” Still, the woman is concerned she was in the wrong.
Everyone said that she was right.
The comments were full of people on her side, making it clear that her boyfriend is the one in the wrong this time.
“That isn’t an apology if it ended in that,” one person wrote. “He’s trying to guilt you. And also I’m assuming he’s seen as many pregnant bellies as most men that age, which is nearing none. He’s speaking from misogyny. And that would make me run honestly if other things were already off.”
Another commenter wrote: “It’s one thing to make a crass joke that doesn’t land. I’m a dude and I do that sometimes w my wife. It’s another to just say something disgusting like this and mean it at 27 years old. You’re entirely reasonable to worry about his long term prospects if this is how he talks about pregnant women. He’s old enough to know better, and he acted like a toddler when you called him on it.”
“He is constantly telling you that you overreact?” someone else noted. “That’s the real issue, girl. He invalidates you on a regular basis. That’s designed to whittle you down to a size he can control—to make you shrink yourself in favor of letting him take over.”
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