Many people out there love to give out the piece of advice that relationships should just flow, but that’s nothing but a nice little fantasy. Realistically speaking, you can’t just share a couch with your partner and call it closeness; you have to make a conscious effort to keep the spark alive. The old, outdated idea of men working and women taking care of everything else doesn’t fit anymore, but that doesn’t mean the need to feel taken care of disappeared. Men still want to feel wanted, though you most likely will never catch them expressing this out loud. And believe it or not, there are a few things men quietly hope you’ll do that can make all the difference in your relationship.
Keep Desire Alive
It’s easy to slip into routines and forget the spark that started it all. Don’t let him just feel like “the guy who takes out the trash.” Remind him he’s still the person you picked, the one you want. That reminder keeps the intimacy alive more than anything else.
Say Thank You
Sounds simple, but it’s huge. If he plans a date, covers dinner, or just supports you when you’re generally stressed — acknowledge it. Men need to hear that what they do matters, even if it’s small. Complimenting them when they make you feel seen and protected will urge them to repeat these behaviors as they associate them as “good.”
Listen Instead of Solving
Sometimes he just wants to vent. No advice, no fixing — just listening. Giving him that space makes him feel safer opening up the next time.
Notice the Quiet Things
He may not come right out and say “I’m upset.” A sigh, silence, or zoning out says a lot. Men tend to retreat inward in times when negative emotions arise. Paying attention to those little signals makes him feel seen in a way words can’t.
Back His Goals
Whether it’s a promotion or some random passion project, show interest. Be the person in his corner. That kind of support sticks with a guy.
Give Him Breathing Room
Let him do his own thing sometimes. Whether that’s hanging with friends, hobbies, or just alone time. It doesn’t mean he’s pulling away; it actually helps him show up better when he’s with you.
Be Direct With Your Needs
No one’s a mind reader. If you need something, just say it. Being clear stops small frustrations from blowing up into bigger ones.
Celebrate the Wins
Cheer him on in his accomplishments!
Whether it’s a big achievement or something as simple as fixing the Wi-Fi. It shows you notice and that you’re proud of him.
Split the Load (Your Way)
Partnerships work best when both people contribute. It doesn’t need to be 50/50, just fair. Find the rhythm that makes life feel lighter for both of you.
Keep It Fun
And simple!
Don’t forget to laugh, flirt, and do silly things together. Relationships aren’t just about surviving life’s responsibilities — they’re about enjoying each other, too.
