Your wedding should be an exciting time in your life, and the — hopefully, insignificant — stressors that come with planning such a big day are inevitable. The problem is when the source of the stress is none other than your husband-to-be and one of his best friends. People on Reddit are talking about a woman who wants to uninvite her fiancé’s closest friend from their wedding after the friend, a woman, talked smack about her.
This story was shared by an anonymous woman, 25, whose fiancé is a 28-year-old man. They met three years ago and he proposed to her last Christmas.
The woman’s fiancé has a really close friend, a 27-year-old woman she calls Amanda, and they have been friends for 12 years.
According to the woman, her fiancé and Amanda talk every day and hang out regularly. She says they spent time together daily when the woman and her now-fiancé first met, but when they became a serious couple, he prioritized her over Amanda.
“I don't mind him being friends with a girl,” the woman wrote.
That said, the woman has always had a feeling that Amanda is not her biggest fan.
“I understand that she is important to him so I've made the effort to get to know her and try to become friends with her,” the woman explained, “although I've always gotten the vibe that she doesn't like me very much.”
She didn’t have to wonder how Amanda felt about her for too much longer because a mutual friend spilled some tea.
“Shortly after my fiancé and I got engaged Amanda called me a ‘gold digger’ behind my back,” the woman shared.
Obviously, she wanted her fiancé to be aware of the situation with his bestie, Amanda.
As any woman would, she told her fiancé what she heard through the grapevine, in hopes that it was just a rumor. But it turns out Amanda talked to the fiancé about his bride-to-be as well.
“He told me that she DID ask him if he can ‘truly trust me’ because I come from a poor family,” the woman explained.
To make matters more awkward, Amanda also encouraged the fiancé to get a prenup!
The Reddit poster says she’s not even opposed to a prenup, but she’s still confused, writing, “I don't see how it's her business.”
The woman was offended, to say the least, and had enough of Amanda and her slander.
“I don't understand why she thinks I'm after money when I literally make my own money,” she wrote, adding that she has never asked for anything from her man.
“I recently invited Amanda to come over so we could talk about her ill feelings towards me,” the woman continued. “She was not apologetic at all and defended her comments about me.”
Besides getting pretty ticked off, she told Amanda not to expect an invitation to the wedding.
In the meantime, Amanda continued to talk smack.
“So now she's upset and badmouthing me to my partner,” the woman shared.
Although her fiancé admits that Amanda is “completely in the wrong, he's not okay with her not attending our wedding.”
“I don't like her and don't see why someone who hates me should be allowed at the wedding,” the woman wrote.
Redditors had so much to say about this situation and weighed in pretty quickly.
Most people felt the fiancé needed a sit down and a good talking-to.
“Flat out ask him why he didn’t defend you against her slandering and why he said he’s not ok with her not being there,” one person suggested. “She obviously has a dislike for you and an issue with the relationship. Why would you invite someone like that to share your day? What if she ruins your special day? Sounds like she would be the type of chick who would stand up and object to the marriage just to be petty.”
“At this point I would indefinitely hold off planning a wedding until this is all sorted out,” another person recommended.
“Talk to your partner” someone else commented. “She’s actively trying to drive a wedge between you two. Find out why he still wants her there, and see what would be acceptable to both of you — like if Amanda apologized to you sincerely. Explain to him how hurtful her comments are to you, and if he doubles down and won’t accept any compromises … then there might need to be another harder conversation.”
Plenty of people agree that Amanda shouldn’t come to the wedding but see signs of a rocky future for the couple.
“[The woman] needs to point out that this is their wedding day, theirs, and it is supposed to be special for them,” one person commented. “She does not deserve to have to put up with someone at her own wedding that treats her the way she does.”
Someone else agreed. “When you get married, you have to be a united front. He has to choose her or you. If he chooses her. I would not marry him.”
“You did all you could by attempting to make peace with her, but she doesn’t want peace with you,” another person commented. “I understand they have a long friendship but this is where he needs to stand up to the person attacking his future wife.”
Another person had a different perspective: “[Amanda] obviously has a thing for him.”
In the end, it appears unanimous amongst the Redditors that this couple has some issues they need to figure out before they head down the aisle.
“This girl is going to cause you MASSIVE issues in your marriage,” wrote one person. “Before you marry this dude, you need to set some serious and clear boundaries with your fiancé about her. She already sees you as being in her territory, and she's going to try to kick you out.”
“Amanda at your wedding is an issue,” someone else commented. “Amanda in your marriage is a bigger one.”
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