Weddings are supposed to be a happy time when a couple and their loved ones can get together, have a good time, and celebrate the love the couple have for each other. They are also a time when tradition is the norm, even though many couples nowadays are creating their own traditions. Nontraditional festivities for couples are becoming more common, as they use their wedding day to be a shining example of the kind of day they want versus the one people may expect. Recently, a man took to Reddit to share that his wedding choices may have been a little too nontraditional — the dance he shared with his sister made his wife so uncomfortable that she wanted to return the sister’s gift.
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The groom took his concern to a popular Reddit community.
The groom made a since-deleted post in the popular Am I the A–hole Reddit community, seeking help from a group of strangers. “My wife wants me to return back my sister's wedding gift because she thought our sibling dance was too intimate,” the post was titled.
“My wife (26F) and I (28M) got married a couple of months ago. The wedding was amazing, we also went on an amazing honeymoon. Everything went great, and we have settled into our nice married life. However, last night, my wife wanted to talk about something serious," he began his post. "We don't shy away from expressing our emotions and insecurities to each other. She brought up our wedding and she talked about how my sibling dance with my sister (26F) was too intimate. I first thought my wife was joking, but I quickly realized she was serious.”
Their conversation got tense pretty quickly.
“I asked her if anyone else at the wedding thought that, and she said no, but because everyone was too scared to say it. I told her that's a straight up lie; and I have close friends who would have said something, but they didn't. Everyone had a good time at the wedding, and nothing seemed out of the ordinary," he shared.
"My sister and I have never really shied away from affection, we know some siblings get awkward with that, but we're the opposite of that. My wife then asked if we could give my sister's wedding gift back to her as we haven't used it yet. It's a La Marzocco GS3 espresso machine, which is by far the most expensive gift we have gotten out of all the gifts,” he continued.
The espresso machine in question has a starting price of $7,500.
Obviously, he was conflicted about what to do with the expensive gift.
“My wife said the gift just made her feel insecure. I told my wife she was being incompletely irrational, and that's the most ridiculous thing she has ever said. I was probably a bit crude with my words, but I just thought the whole thing was ridiculous," he wrote.
"She then dropped the topic and we carried on like normal. We also used the espresso machine for the first time today, and it's pretty amazing. Was I an AH for telling my wife she was being ridiculous?” he asked.
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The post has gotten thousands of comments.
Because of the controversial nature of the post, it’s no surprise that people had a lot of questions and opinions on the OP and his situation. Many people expressed a need to have more details about the dance, and others called him out for the way he dismissed his wife’s feelings.
“I need to see the wedding video,” one person wrote, to which someone else replied “Yes, I demand the SIBLING DANCE TAX. Surely, multiple people took videos.”
“I want to know how the sister treats the wife, does she try and push boundaries to prove she is closer to you than the wife is?" another person wrote. "Has she ever made rude comments to your wife? I feel like they aren’t close from your post. NTA for keeping the espresso machine tho.”
“You say you don't shy away from affection from your sister. What does that mean in the context of a dance?" one comment read. "That is vague, at best, and I've never heard of a sibling dance at a wedding. You didn't really give any context as to why your wife might have thought what she did.”
People really had strong reactions to the story.
According to one commenter, the OP left a comment and then essentially vanished from the conversation. “I don't really remember much. The theme was slow dancing, some of the songs I remember were At Last (Etta James) and All of Me (John Legend),” the OP wrote.
“Multiple slow dances with your sister IS weird,” one person commented.
“Yea after seeing the songs and seeing that it was multiple love songs that are common to be first dances for the couple I'm like 😐 I get why the wife felt uncomfortable. Like how many love song dances did she get with you compared to your sister?" another commenter wrote. "I just picture her sitting down with a drink waiting for your (strange but ok) sibling dance to be over, but then it turns into 2, 3, 4 songs or whatever while you hold your sister close and let your wife sit on the sidelines. Idk man it is weird.”
“I would never dance to ALL OF ME by JOHN LEGEND with my sibling. THAT'S SO AWKWARD. 'All of me loves all of you, all your curves and all your edges, all your perfect imperfections.' Yep. Totally a sibling dance song…. in West Virginia,” someone else quipped.
“Either you and your sister need therapy, or your wife needs therapy but none of this is remotely normal,” another person chimed in.
